Maria McErlane

And in the past, I've really tried to help, listening, giving advice, even talking to my brother.

But it's become a cycle.

After a few days, they're back together, acting like everything's fine and nothing happened, posting lovey-dove stuff on social media until the next fight.

It's honestly exhausting and I don't want to be pulled into it anymore, especially since I've been dealing with some health issues and need to avoid stress.

Recently, after another big fight, she reached out again for advice.

How should I respond?

I feel like I've already given up on trying to help them.

Salamat, which means thank you.

And that is from Anonymous in the Philippines.

Thank you, Graham and Maria.

I think you just say, finally, I've been dealing with some issues myself at the moment, so I haven't actually got the bandwidth for this right now.

Really sorry.

I hope you sort it out.

I mean, you know, just be honest, a bit like Graham wasn't earlier.

Yeah.

I didn't respond to you because I didn't want to.

Yeah, my phone is broken.

Oh, but yes.

Yeah.

Yeah, I think you just have to be very honest, Anonymous, and you've done your best, and you're not a sounding board for them.