Matt Mathews

Isn't it crazy as we get older that we can see our parents through that lens?

Because I grew up hating my entire family so much that I got to spend the last years of each one of my parents' life.

I left home at 14.

And I got to forgive them for the childhood that I had.

And then when I saw just how sad and unhealed they were, it was almost like, I was like, it like freed up my heart because I was just like, you know what?

You can't be angry anymore.

Yeah.

It's like you, you become their parent in a way.

And you're just kind of like, man, you know, like this, you were put here on this earth to teach me this lesson.

And to be able to look at it through the lens that you're looking at it is super beautiful.

Am I slow?

Yeah.

That's how I feel too.

Cause my little sister got to live and I, I very, very rarely talk about my little sister because she,

I still try to protect her, but she got to live the childhood that I never got with both parents together, going to prom, my dad taking her to prom, never, never having chores and like being abused the way I was.

And she's a mess.

She's a drug addict.

She's just, she's not okay.

And hyper independence is a trauma response.

Yeah.