Matua Mark

Yeah, because there are...

Rooted in enduring human differences, not temporary misunderstandings, different emotional sensitivities, different needs for closeness, different tolerance for conflict, different communication styles, different nervous systems, different coping strategies, different histories, many long-term relationship struggles are not fully solvable problems.

Oh, Jordan's noise makes that noise where you're like, makes me feel like every problem is solvable in your mind.

No idea?

Let me talk on it then.

Allow me.

Because I think that that's part of being in a relationship, right?

I don't like the word sacrifice because it doesn't necessarily, sacrifice sounds like you're doing something, like you're giving something up.

But I think that understanding is probably the nicer way of putting it.

And there will be things that it's not my business to put upon my partner to say, deal with it.

This is who I am.

You just need to deal with it because I feel like that's not how a relationship should work.

That's my personal take on it.

And therefore, there would be things that,

there would be I guess non-solvable problems that we would run into from time to time and being at peace with the idea that this is who I've chosen to be with for the rest of my life and this is something that will be that I know is a flag so I need to either avoid it or I need to talk through that flag and it still may just appear no matter what that would be my take on it hmm did you just laugh at my take?

Maybe people don't have the tools to solve it right then and there.

So maybe help could come and help resolve whatever it is.

But in terms of like sitting in a relationship and take yourself out of this moment for a moment and just think about someone who might be listening to this going, okay, we keep hitting our heads against the same topic and we don't know how, we don't have the tools to get through it or around it.

So feeling the knowledge that relationships in general, there are going to be struggles that are not fully solvable.

And that's okay.