Mel Robbins

The post-date eight.

Okay, what are the eight things?

Now, here's what's interesting.

is that I love the question about did I feel attractive?

Because I think we're often so focused on the chemistry and the spark and am I attracted to you?

Yeah.

That you forget that it's really about whether or not you feel like more of you and whether or not you feel attractive in this.

Because I think we've all had the situation of

of dating somebody where we think they're really hot, but the whole time, even though we're attracted to them and we might be a little tingly, we're actually very tense because we're worried about how we look and we're worried about what they think and we're worried about.

And to me, that feels like if you go through those eight questions, that's easily going to weed a lot of people out because you can't actually be yourself around a person like that.

What's the research on couples that go the distance that it's like the spark and love at first sight versus you just mentioned this word slow burn.

It builds over time.

I'd love to play this question from a listener named Sophia.

Logan, I am so glad you're here.

I am already learning so much and I'm starting to think about this completely differently.

I'm sure you are too as you're listening to all of this advice and her perspective.

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