Mel Robbins

And so one of the interesting things about this is as we were writing the section on love, her boyfriend of two years broke up with her.

She comes sobbing.

This is when she thought she was going to marry.

She literally was like,

What am I supposed to do?

Just let him leave?

Let him sleep with other people?

Let him break my heart?

I hate this theory.

And so we wrote the entire section about the breakup as she was going through it in real time.

And what's interesting about that as a parent or a friend is that when you've been with somebody that's going through a horrible divorce or they're going through a terrible breakup, all you want to do is take their pain away.

And I had to use the theory to let her grieve, to let her be in a depressive state.

to let her have her process.

And all I wanted to do was be texting his mother and trying to get them back together.

And, you know, I didn't want to have to, like, I didn't want to delete the photos on the digital frame.

I was just like pausing them because I'm holding out.

Like I wanted to reassure her, but that actually communicates.

that you're not strong enough to get through this.

And one of the biggest lessons as a parent that this book has taught me is that your kids are so much stronger than you realize and your job is to let them learn from life while you've got your arm around their shoulder saying, I am here when you need me.

And I believe in your ability