Melissa Urban

beloved boundaries and the one that i've set for many many years and the one that i still hold to if i do roll over and check my phone before i go to the gym and do my meditation like nobody's going to jump out of the closet and slap the phone out of my hand so you're going to know i will know and what's going to happen is that there will be a massive ripple effect to future melissa really i think about future me all the time tell me more

beloved boundaries and the one that i've set for many many years and the one that i still hold to if i do roll over and check my phone before i go to the gym and do my meditation like nobody's going to jump out of the closet and slap the phone out of my hand so you're going to know i will know and what's going to happen is that there will be a massive ripple effect to future melissa really i think about future me all the time tell me more

What is the decision that I'm making right now and how is it going to impact future Melissa? Because current Melissa is going to be so happy to just like stay up late and not start her bedtime routine and just do like one more show on Netflix. But what will this mean for future Melissa? She's going to be really mad at herself because she didn't get to bed on time.

What is the decision that I'm making right now and how is it going to impact future Melissa? Because current Melissa is going to be so happy to just like stay up late and not start her bedtime routine and just do like one more show on Netflix. But what will this mean for future Melissa? She's going to be really mad at herself because she didn't get to bed on time.

then she's going to fall asleep late and then she's probably not going to have as good a night's sleep and then when she wakes up tomorrow she's not going to be pumped for the gym and she might even skip it because she's going to be tired if she skips the gym before she does this interview she was she's like not going to be a good guest because she won't feel grounded and centered like when i play it out that way it makes it a lot easier for me to be like go to bed because future melissa will benefit so

then she's going to fall asleep late and then she's probably not going to have as good a night's sleep and then when she wakes up tomorrow she's not going to be pumped for the gym and she might even skip it because she's going to be tired if she skips the gym before she does this interview she was she's like not going to be a good guest because she won't feel grounded and centered like when i play it out that way it makes it a lot easier for me to be like go to bed because future melissa will benefit so

I have boundaries with myself where I'm not checking my phone in the morning before I do my morning routine, not checking my phone in the half hour before bedtime, so I'm not checking Twitter one more time or email one more time. I have really strong boundaries. When I'm out of office, I am out of office.

I have boundaries with myself where I'm not checking my phone in the morning before I do my morning routine, not checking my phone in the half hour before bedtime, so I'm not checking Twitter one more time or email one more time. I have really strong boundaries. When I'm out of office, I am out of office.

Unless something is on fire, you do not call or text me and I will not be checking text messages or emails. I think I set boundaries with myself pretty often. Because I know that they can be like an instant sense. They can give me an instant sense of freedom. And nobody else has to even worry about it.

Unless something is on fire, you do not call or text me and I will not be checking text messages or emails. I think I set boundaries with myself pretty often. Because I know that they can be like an instant sense. They can give me an instant sense of freedom. And nobody else has to even worry about it.

I think I've become more rigorous about what I say yes to in terms of work opportunities. It's hard as an entrepreneur not to feel like you have to or should say yes to everything. And if I don't say yes to this, maybe they won't ask me again. Or who knows what this lunch or coffee could turn into. I think, I don't know if we talked about this, but like four years ago, I got a concussion.

I think I've become more rigorous about what I say yes to in terms of work opportunities. It's hard as an entrepreneur not to feel like you have to or should say yes to everything. And if I don't say yes to this, maybe they won't ask me again. Or who knows what this lunch or coffee could turn into. I think, I don't know if we talked about this, but like four years ago, I got a concussion.

I'm still going through post-concussion symptoms that are triggered by air travel, events like this, speaking events, in-person events, like any kind of stressor can set my concussion symptoms off. And that forced me to become more rigorous about what I say yes to. So now, again, I kind of have this automatic pause before I say yes to anything.

I'm still going through post-concussion symptoms that are triggered by air travel, events like this, speaking events, in-person events, like any kind of stressor can set my concussion symptoms off. And that forced me to become more rigorous about what I say yes to. So now, again, I kind of have this automatic pause before I say yes to anything.

Even something that I think I'm super excited about, it's like quick pause. Can you work this into your schedule? Will you have capacity to do this? What else is this going to push off your plate? And is that acceptable to you? What are the things you're going to have to make up when you get back home? And then once I think about that, I either say yes or no.

Even something that I think I'm super excited about, it's like quick pause. Can you work this into your schedule? Will you have capacity to do this? What else is this going to push off your plate? And is that acceptable to you? What are the things you're going to have to make up when you get back home? And then once I think about that, I either say yes or no.

And if I say no, it's because again, I know I'm serving future me. I can be disappointed. but I can also be happy that I've checked in with my own needs. So that I think I've really dialed in on the last couple of years. And I think it's made a big difference in my overall capacity.

And if I say no, it's because again, I know I'm serving future me. I can be disappointed. but I can also be happy that I've checked in with my own needs. So that I think I've really dialed in on the last couple of years. And I think it's made a big difference in my overall capacity.

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