Melissa Urban

Unless something is on fire, you do not call or text me and I will not be checking text messages or emails. I think I set boundaries with myself pretty often. Because I know that they can be like an instant sense. They can give me an instant sense of freedom. And nobody else has to even worry about it.

I think I've become more rigorous about what I say yes to in terms of work opportunities. It's hard as an entrepreneur not to feel like you have to or should say yes to everything. And if I don't say yes to this, maybe they won't ask me again. Or who knows what this lunch or coffee could turn into. I think, I don't know if we talked about this, but like four years ago, I got a concussion.

I think I've become more rigorous about what I say yes to in terms of work opportunities. It's hard as an entrepreneur not to feel like you have to or should say yes to everything. And if I don't say yes to this, maybe they won't ask me again. Or who knows what this lunch or coffee could turn into. I think, I don't know if we talked about this, but like four years ago, I got a concussion.

I'm still going through post-concussion symptoms that are triggered by air travel, events like this, speaking events, in-person events, like any kind of stressor can set my concussion symptoms off. And that forced me to become more rigorous about what I say yes to. So now, again, I kind of have this automatic pause before I say yes to anything.

I'm still going through post-concussion symptoms that are triggered by air travel, events like this, speaking events, in-person events, like any kind of stressor can set my concussion symptoms off. And that forced me to become more rigorous about what I say yes to. So now, again, I kind of have this automatic pause before I say yes to anything.

Even something that I think I'm super excited about, it's like quick pause. Can you work this into your schedule? Will you have capacity to do this? What else is this going to push off your plate? And is that acceptable to you? What are the things you're going to have to make up when you get back home? And then once I think about that, I either say yes or no.

Even something that I think I'm super excited about, it's like quick pause. Can you work this into your schedule? Will you have capacity to do this? What else is this going to push off your plate? And is that acceptable to you? What are the things you're going to have to make up when you get back home? And then once I think about that, I either say yes or no.

And if I say no, it's because again, I know I'm serving future me. I can be disappointed. but I can also be happy that I've checked in with my own needs. So that I think I've really dialed in on the last couple of years. And I think it's made a big difference in my overall capacity.

And if I say no, it's because again, I know I'm serving future me. I can be disappointed. but I can also be happy that I've checked in with my own needs. So that I think I've really dialed in on the last couple of years. And I think it's made a big difference in my overall capacity.

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know. I'm not a New Year's resolution person. I tend to just take on these like self-improvement things as I stumble across them. Yeah, like I started my cold shower experiment like in February two years ago just randomly. So I'm not a New Year's resolution person and there is no one-size-fits-all for boundaries.

know. I'm not a New Year's resolution person. I tend to just take on these like self-improvement things as I stumble across them. Yeah, like I started my cold shower experiment like in February two years ago just randomly. So I'm not a New Year's resolution person and there is no one-size-fits-all for boundaries.

I won't know what my needs are next year until I get to next year and I'm in the moment and I go... You know, my context has changed. My capacity has changed. My goals have changed. Do I still I'm always reevaluating my boundary. Do I still need a boundary here? And if so, is this the boundary that I need?

I won't know what my needs are next year until I get to next year and I'm in the moment and I go... You know, my context has changed. My capacity has changed. My goals have changed. Do I still I'm always reevaluating my boundary. Do I still need a boundary here? And if so, is this the boundary that I need?

Because they should be flexible and I shouldn't keep a limit in place that no longer serves me.

Because they should be flexible and I shouldn't keep a limit in place that no longer serves me.

So I don't know. Ask me next year.

So I don't know. Ask me next year.

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