Michael Bungay Stanier
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first heard Jun 2026
last heard 5 Jun
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what needs to be said and done so you show up with a degree of ferocity for the sake of love to support them in a way.
And it comes from my own shit, really, which is around how often I have...
kind of wimped out or not stepped up to say the thing, to hold the thing up, to say the truth, to challenge because it felt too hard.
And then I kind of convinced myself that actually being nice was actually the thing that they wanted from me.
And having this sense of a ferocity for the sake of kindness and love allows you to be an extraordinary person in somebody's life.
I agree.
None of these paradoxes are easy to master, I think.
And this idea of
the fierce love and the fierceness in particular, Eric, one of the questions that I think can be helpful is, for whose sake am I genuinely being fierce in this moment?
It's a great question in general with coaching or asking questions.
Because sometimes you can find yourself as a coach, formally or informally, asking questions that are more helpful for you than they are to the other person.
I can't imagine such a thing.
Often why questions are those.
So why did you do that?
And you're like, well, you're actually...
doing often in that moment is you're trying to find out more data so that you can come up with a better solution to offer them an opinion and actually why questions are actually not often that helpful for people because you know a they're ambiguous they're like are you judging me i you know so why the hell did you do that are you just trying to find out data for you are you looking for justification why you know the why questions can be can be complicated
So this sense of fierceness, you know, I don't think it translates into, so I'm just going to tell you every idea I've ever got for you to get better.
That explains your first seven failed marriages, Eric.
It is both in a sense of like, I'm saying this because of my love for you rather than my frustration with you.
And it's really worth sitting with going, it's like, am I saying it or not saying it?
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