Mike Carruthers

And you can't just say, well, that's their attachment style.

You know, there is a line at which point you've got to go, well, you know, however, we're in a relationship here and you're not stepping up.

I have this sense that people who have been listening to this for the last 20 minutes have heard in what you said, have heard something about themselves or something about the people they are in a relationship with that explains a lot.

And I think it's been really helpful.

I've been speaking with Dr. Amir Levine.

He is a psychiatrist and neuroscientist at Columbia University.

And he's author of the book, Attached.

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love.

He's also the author of another book called Secure, The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life.

And there's a link to both of those books in the show notes.

Also, earlier in the episode, Amir mentioned a quiz that's on his website, and so there's a link to his website in the show notes as well.

Every day, your life is shaped by predictions.

And you probably pay attention to them because, well, people like and trust predictions.

After all, they're based on data, science, or sophisticated technology.

But what if predictions aren't really about seeing the future?

What if they're actually about influencing it?

Because once a prediction is made about your behavior or your risk or your potential, it can start to shape outcomes in ways you don't even notice.

My guest says this isn't new.

Predictions have always carried power, not just to forecast the future, but to control it.

Carissa Valise is an associate professor at the Institute for Ethics in AI at the University of Oxford, and she's author of the book Prophecy, Prediction, Power, and the Fight for the Future from Ancient Oracles to AI.