Miranda July

That isn't specific to me because I actually don't feel like... I think at the time I felt very unique and very like no one's doing what I'm doing and both worried by that and sort of proud. And now I'm like, no. This is incredibly widespread, at least lots of thoughts about it. And then people trying to figure out how to do it. I mean, the thing of living... Together, it's what you're used to.

Obviously, that's not going to work if you're incredibly embattled, you know. But if you're not, then it is kind of an opportunity to see who the other person is a bit more. Like, wow, this person who is like my longtime friend. like, but I never could quite see what they were like when they're dating, you know?

Obviously, that's not going to work if you're incredibly embattled, you know. But if you're not, then it is kind of an opportunity to see who the other person is a bit more. Like, wow, this person who is like my longtime friend. like, but I never could quite see what they were like when they're dating, you know?

Obviously, that's not going to work if you're incredibly embattled, you know. But if you're not, then it is kind of an opportunity to see who the other person is a bit more. Like, wow, this person who is like my longtime friend. like, but I never could quite see what they were like when they're dating, you know?

Not that, like, you're necessarily getting any details or anything, but just, like, their energy, you know, because you were the person they were dating, and now you're not. And, like, yeah, there might be some sadness or strangeness about that, but... you're also like, look at you, you're a person. Like I never really gave you all of that. And meanwhile, you're also getting it too.

Not that, like, you're necessarily getting any details or anything, but just, like, their energy, you know, because you were the person they were dating, and now you're not. And, like, yeah, there might be some sadness or strangeness about that, but... you're also like, look at you, you're a person. Like I never really gave you all of that. And meanwhile, you're also getting it too.

Not that, like, you're necessarily getting any details or anything, but just, like, their energy, you know, because you were the person they were dating, and now you're not. And, like, yeah, there might be some sadness or strangeness about that, but... you're also like, look at you, you're a person. Like I never really gave you all of that. And meanwhile, you're also getting it too.

Like they're seeing you as a person more completely and nothing you do is threatening in the old way. You know, the way every new thing and change is like sort of threatening when you're in a couple sometimes. And if you know it's going to be a lifelong relationship,

Like they're seeing you as a person more completely and nothing you do is threatening in the old way. You know, the way every new thing and change is like sort of threatening when you're in a couple sometimes. And if you know it's going to be a lifelong relationship,

Like they're seeing you as a person more completely and nothing you do is threatening in the old way. You know, the way every new thing and change is like sort of threatening when you're in a couple sometimes. And if you know it's going to be a lifelong relationship,

You know, partly because of the child, but also because, you know, life isn't that long and you've already invested so much time and energy with this person. Like maybe that's sort of interesting to get to see and be seen, you know, in this different way.

You know, partly because of the child, but also because, you know, life isn't that long and you've already invested so much time and energy with this person. Like maybe that's sort of interesting to get to see and be seen, you know, in this different way.

You know, partly because of the child, but also because, you know, life isn't that long and you've already invested so much time and energy with this person. Like maybe that's sort of interesting to get to see and be seen, you know, in this different way.

So, yeah, the four days, every other four days, I'm alone, you know, or wherever, whoever I choose to sleep with. Like in my 20s. Like it's really... Like, you really have to stop and think when you have that time alone where you're not responsible. Like, what actually am I doing here in this life? Like, what do I feel? And you keep...

So, yeah, the four days, every other four days, I'm alone, you know, or wherever, whoever I choose to sleep with. Like in my 20s. Like it's really... Like, you really have to stop and think when you have that time alone where you're not responsible. Like, what actually am I doing here in this life? Like, what do I feel? And you keep...

So, yeah, the four days, every other four days, I'm alone, you know, or wherever, whoever I choose to sleep with. Like in my 20s. Like it's really... Like, you really have to stop and think when you have that time alone where you're not responsible. Like, what actually am I doing here in this life? Like, what do I feel? And you keep...

Just because you've unburdened yourself practically, you know, from this construction or these real responsibilities doesn't mean they just automatically lift off your shoulders. Like most of my issues come from within, right? So suddenly you're like, oh, it wasn't all the construction of marriage or this.

Just because you've unburdened yourself practically, you know, from this construction or these real responsibilities doesn't mean they just automatically lift off your shoulders. Like most of my issues come from within, right? So suddenly you're like, oh, it wasn't all the construction of marriage or this.

Just because you've unburdened yourself practically, you know, from this construction or these real responsibilities doesn't mean they just automatically lift off your shoulders. Like most of my issues come from within, right? So suddenly you're like, oh, it wasn't all the construction of marriage or this.

patriarchy or those it was those things but they're inside me and I'm still running for dear life or replacing those constructions with new ones you know anything that'll fill up my time take my time please you know Instagram whatever like and so to actually be willing to take on that freedom, it's a real practice. And I don't mean to make it sound hard or scary.