Monica Packer

It is so much harder to talk about, hey, not every day looks the same.

There's nuance internally, externally.

There's factors that don't go according to plan.

There's circumstances that pop up, you know, and that's harder to sell because people love the idea of a black and white method that leads to very certain outcomes.

If I follow A to Z, then I will get exactly what I want.

And so people teach it that way.

Instead, what we need to consider is how to have a way of looking at habits and our lives and designing our lives around our habits and our habits around our lives, where that is all not just like ignored or kind of like shuffled off to the wings, like be quiet, just pretend, like pretend that everything is the same every single day and that you have like an endless resource of energy and support and no interruptions and all the predictability in the world.

Shh, just pretend.

But in reality, we need to know, like, how do we just know, like, hey, come on the stage.

If all of these factors are here, how can we, instead of saying, well, then I guess what's the point?

Don't try.

How do we instead work with these things and still have the end results or at least a version of it that we want?

Because there's a reason we want these things, right?

There's a reason and they're good and valuable.

So think about that.

Like, why does this matter to me?

And if it really does come down to, well, because Sally down the street does it that way, that's probably not good enough reason.

Or because so-and-so said it online and I bet it was like a bro self-help guy.

So, you know, think about like, well, do I, most of the things I think though, people do have a genuine understanding.

valid reason about why they want something.