Nicholas Epley
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first heard Oct 2024
last heard Oct 2024
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Another cue we use once we know a little more about somebody is we use stereotypes.
So, Mike, you're a man.
I have stereotypes about what other men are like.
I might be able to use that to make a guess about what kind of TV shows you might want to watch or if you're going to buy a car, what kind of car you might want or.
what your politics might be.
And again, stereotypes, in contrast to kind of the common negativity that we have about them, actually contain some degree of accuracy to them.
The problem is they don't contain nearly as much accuracy as we often ascribe to them.
And then the last cue we use when trying to guess what's on the mind of another person is we use their behavior.
So if I can see you doing something, if I watch you
pick up a drink and drink it, I can make an inference about what you're thinking.
I can assume that, oh, I guess you wanted to drink that.
You like that kind of drink.
I use your behavior and work backwards.
The problem is that behavior itself can be misleading too.
Sometimes we choose things because it's the only thing that's available.
Sometimes we do things because somebody else is making us do them.
Our behavior is also not quite as crystal clear a guide to our thoughts as we might imagine it is.
So the problem comes in is that misunderstanding, that failing to appreciate what's on your mind creates conflict, creates social friction.
So let me give you a very simple example.
I'm a teacher.
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