Nick Pollard

It can be vitriol. It can be sunshine and rainbows. It can be an, I love you. It's a great way to diffuse a boundary conversation, by the way, just, I love you.

So that's what I would say is give yourself two seconds and then speak whatever comes to your mouth. And it's going to be scary and you're going to feel it, right? And so I think what I heard you ask me and tell me if it's true is like, how do I get over the feeling?

So that's what I would say is give yourself two seconds and then speak whatever comes to your mouth. And it's going to be scary and you're going to feel it, right? And so I think what I heard you ask me and tell me if it's true is like, how do I get over the feeling?

So that's what I would say is give yourself two seconds and then speak whatever comes to your mouth. And it's going to be scary and you're going to feel it, right? And so I think what I heard you ask me and tell me if it's true is like, how do I get over the feeling?

Yeah. It's, I mentioned it earlier. Like if you think of the first time you were going to kiss your wife, you're married, right? You're married. No, I thought you were married for some reason. Um, if you think of the first time you're going to kiss your, your girlfriend or anybody, and then you think of the first time you thought you were going to die, the feelings are identical, right?

Yeah. It's, I mentioned it earlier. Like if you think of the first time you were going to kiss your wife, you're married, right? You're married. No, I thought you were married for some reason. Um, if you think of the first time you're going to kiss your, your girlfriend or anybody, and then you think of the first time you thought you were going to die, the feelings are identical, right?

Yeah. It's, I mentioned it earlier. Like if you think of the first time you were going to kiss your wife, you're married, right? You're married. No, I thought you were married for some reason. Um, if you think of the first time you're going to kiss your, your girlfriend or anybody, and then you think of the first time you thought you were going to die, the feelings are identical, right?

So the question is, are you guilty? Are you excited? Are you feeling guilty because you're, you're not choosing them? Are you feeling excited because you finally chose you?

So the question is, are you guilty? Are you excited? Are you feeling guilty because you're, you're not choosing them? Are you feeling excited because you finally chose you?

So the question is, are you guilty? Are you excited? Are you feeling guilty because you're, you're not choosing them? Are you feeling excited because you finally chose you?

You're going to get over it. Yeah. You're going to feel guilty, man. It's like you weren't good at tying your shoes in the beginning either. You know, for the first three years of your life, you shit your pants, but you're able to get over the discomfort of learning how to not shit your pants and how to tie your shoes.

You're going to get over it. Yeah. You're going to feel guilty, man. It's like you weren't good at tying your shoes in the beginning either. You know, for the first three years of your life, you shit your pants, but you're able to get over the discomfort of learning how to not shit your pants and how to tie your shoes.

You're going to get over it. Yeah. You're going to feel guilty, man. It's like you weren't good at tying your shoes in the beginning either. You know, for the first three years of your life, you shit your pants, but you're able to get over the discomfort of learning how to not shit your pants and how to tie your shoes.

So if you can get over the discomfort of not shitting your pants and learning how to tie your shoes, and there's a good, a fair chance you can get over the discomfort of saying no. And so it's this immersion in the idea that you are not for everyone. And I lived my life the opposite forever. So I think it's something I'm really passionate about is, yeah, you're going to feel guilty.

So if you can get over the discomfort of not shitting your pants and learning how to tie your shoes, and there's a good, a fair chance you can get over the discomfort of saying no. And so it's this immersion in the idea that you are not for everyone. And I lived my life the opposite forever. So I think it's something I'm really passionate about is, yeah, you're going to feel guilty.

So if you can get over the discomfort of not shitting your pants and learning how to tie your shoes, and there's a good, a fair chance you can get over the discomfort of saying no. And so it's this immersion in the idea that you are not for everyone. And I lived my life the opposite forever. So I think it's something I'm really passionate about is, yeah, you're going to feel guilty.

You're going to feel uncomfortable, right? Is it guilt or is it just discomfort? That's the next question. It's like, are you guilty? Like, are you sitting there going, I'm really, this person's really going to be sad? Probably not. So if they are, if you're truly believing that, are you engaged in a form of hubris? That would be my next question is like, how important do you think your no is?

You're going to feel uncomfortable, right? Is it guilt or is it just discomfort? That's the next question. It's like, are you guilty? Like, are you sitting there going, I'm really, this person's really going to be sad? Probably not. So if they are, if you're truly believing that, are you engaged in a form of hubris? That would be my next question is like, how important do you think your no is?

You're going to feel uncomfortable, right? Is it guilt or is it just discomfort? That's the next question. It's like, are you guilty? Like, are you sitting there going, I'm really, this person's really going to be sad? Probably not. So if they are, if you're truly believing that, are you engaged in a form of hubris? That would be my next question is like, how important do you think your no is?

And I ask people that all the time and in exactly the same way. It's like, how important really are you? Are you really that important that if you say no, I don't want to go to lunch with you, they're going to go outside and stick a fire hose from the tailpipe into the window? Probably not. I think they're going to be okay. They'll have a margarita by themselves, right?