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Nick Pollard

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Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And then slowly but surely you start to find out that people love you for you, not because of what you do.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And then slowly but surely you start to find out that people love you for you, not because of what you do.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I know it's a safe space. I want to answer that, but I want to also say your business partner is also one of those coaches that doesn't know he's my coach. In fact, you can thank him. You can thank him for my sound quality today because I went and bought this just for you.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I know it's a safe space. I want to answer that, but I want to also say your business partner is also one of those coaches that doesn't know he's my coach. In fact, you can thank him. You can thank him for my sound quality today because I went and bought this just for you.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I know it's a safe space. I want to answer that, but I want to also say your business partner is also one of those coaches that doesn't know he's my coach. In fact, you can thank him. You can thank him for my sound quality today because I went and bought this just for you.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

So I struggle with this because I think I'm not, I tend to not be great in psychological terminology and I'm going to get shit on for it, but whatever. So in my experience, I come from a lot of childhood trauma and when I was triggered, I would have a visceral emotional reaction within my body.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

So I struggle with this because I think I'm not, I tend to not be great in psychological terminology and I'm going to get shit on for it, but whatever. So in my experience, I come from a lot of childhood trauma and when I was triggered, I would have a visceral emotional reaction within my body.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

So I struggle with this because I think I'm not, I tend to not be great in psychological terminology and I'm going to get shit on for it, but whatever. So in my experience, I come from a lot of childhood trauma and when I was triggered, I would have a visceral emotional reaction within my body.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And it could be auditory. It could be hallucinogenic. It can really be an experience where somebody will say something. You'll have a smell. You'll feel a feeling. Something will occur. Somebody will yell at me, and it could fire my mind off. I've done a ton of work on post-traumatic stress disorder within myself. I'm not an expert in the field.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And it could be auditory. It could be hallucinogenic. It can really be an experience where somebody will say something. You'll have a smell. You'll feel a feeling. Something will occur. Somebody will yell at me, and it could fire my mind off. I've done a ton of work on post-traumatic stress disorder within myself. I'm not an expert in the field.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And it could be auditory. It could be hallucinogenic. It can really be an experience where somebody will say something. You'll have a smell. You'll feel a feeling. Something will occur. Somebody will yell at me, and it could fire my mind off. I've done a ton of work on post-traumatic stress disorder within myself. I'm not an expert in the field.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

But I think where we've gotten is the conflation between triggers and negative emotion. And that's what I mean by that. Somebody who's legitimately triggered, if that's a thing for you, you need to speak to somebody in the psychological field. If you are having a visceral, overwhelming reaction, to external stimuli, then that's a bigger problem that I'm prepared to address.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

But I think where we've gotten is the conflation between triggers and negative emotion. And that's what I mean by that. Somebody who's legitimately triggered, if that's a thing for you, you need to speak to somebody in the psychological field. If you are having a visceral, overwhelming reaction, to external stimuli, then that's a bigger problem that I'm prepared to address.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

But I think where we've gotten is the conflation between triggers and negative emotion. And that's what I mean by that. Somebody who's legitimately triggered, if that's a thing for you, you need to speak to somebody in the psychological field. If you are having a visceral, overwhelming reaction, to external stimuli, then that's a bigger problem that I'm prepared to address.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

It's the conflation between... There's two things. There's a conflation between triggers and negative emotion, and the other conflation is between trauma and adversity. When I say your triggers are your responsibility, I mean just somebody making you feel uncomfortable is not you being triggered, and if it is, that is your responsibility.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

It's the conflation between... There's two things. There's a conflation between triggers and negative emotion, and the other conflation is between trauma and adversity. When I say your triggers are your responsibility, I mean just somebody making you feel uncomfortable is not you being triggered, and if it is, that is your responsibility.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

It's the conflation between... There's two things. There's a conflation between triggers and negative emotion, and the other conflation is between trauma and adversity. When I say your triggers are your responsibility, I mean just somebody making you feel uncomfortable is not you being triggered, and if it is, that is your responsibility.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

Even in the sense that I was talking about with my own post-traumatic stress disorder, that was still my responsibility. So dealing with that level of trigger is different. Dealing with the I'm uncomfortable trigger or I don't like it when you do that thing trigger.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

Even in the sense that I was talking about with my own post-traumatic stress disorder, that was still my responsibility. So dealing with that level of trigger is different. Dealing with the I'm uncomfortable trigger or I don't like it when you do that thing trigger.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

Even in the sense that I was talking about with my own post-traumatic stress disorder, that was still my responsibility. So dealing with that level of trigger is different. Dealing with the I'm uncomfortable trigger or I don't like it when you do that thing trigger.