Nick Pollard

And one of the ways I show people how to do that is, um, we'll give you a little secret from one of my boundary bootcamps, but, um, spend seven days saying no to everything, everything.

And one of the ways I show people how to do that is, um, we'll give you a little secret from one of my boundary bootcamps, but, um, spend seven days saying no to everything, everything.

And one of the ways I show people how to do that is, um, we'll give you a little secret from one of my boundary bootcamps, but, um, spend seven days saying no to everything, everything.

just do you want to go out to lunch no do you want to hang out on saturday no do you want to help me with my work project no right the answer is just no um and there's rules to the game the rules are you know you have to do it for seven days you can tell everybody you're playing so you literally you can illuminate it to everyone doesn't have to be a secret um and then you can change your mind after 90 seconds oh but you have to sit with the discomfort of the no for a minute and a half

just do you want to go out to lunch no do you want to hang out on saturday no do you want to help me with my work project no right the answer is just no um and there's rules to the game the rules are you know you have to do it for seven days you can tell everybody you're playing so you literally you can illuminate it to everyone doesn't have to be a secret um and then you can change your mind after 90 seconds oh but you have to sit with the discomfort of the no for a minute and a half

just do you want to go out to lunch no do you want to hang out on saturday no do you want to help me with my work project no right the answer is just no um and there's rules to the game the rules are you know you have to do it for seven days you can tell everybody you're playing so you literally you can illuminate it to everyone doesn't have to be a secret um and then you can change your mind after 90 seconds oh but you have to sit with the discomfort of the no for a minute and a half

Well, yeah, and it also does two things. So it changes the value system in your brain, at least it did for me, where I was like, okay, well, no doesn't really actually hurt that much. So I stopped being afraid of the word no. But it also gave me the idea that I could, well, then I can think about what I'm trying to do. Like, do I want to actually do that?

Well, yeah, and it also does two things. So it changes the value system in your brain, at least it did for me, where I was like, okay, well, no doesn't really actually hurt that much. So I stopped being afraid of the word no. But it also gave me the idea that I could, well, then I can think about what I'm trying to do. Like, do I want to actually do that?

Well, yeah, and it also does two things. So it changes the value system in your brain, at least it did for me, where I was like, okay, well, no doesn't really actually hurt that much. So I stopped being afraid of the word no. But it also gave me the idea that I could, well, then I can think about what I'm trying to do. Like, do I want to actually do that?

Because when you're a people-pleasing kind of person, and I do want to draw the line at some point that being agreeable and being a people-pleaser are not the same. Um, you know, I generally don't care about much stuff. So there's that. But when you start saying no, you go, okay, well now my calendar is free and I can actually do stuff that I want to do.

Because when you're a people-pleasing kind of person, and I do want to draw the line at some point that being agreeable and being a people-pleaser are not the same. Um, you know, I generally don't care about much stuff. So there's that. But when you start saying no, you go, okay, well now my calendar is free and I can actually do stuff that I want to do.

Because when you're a people-pleasing kind of person, and I do want to draw the line at some point that being agreeable and being a people-pleaser are not the same. Um, you know, I generally don't care about much stuff. So there's that. But when you start saying no, you go, okay, well now my calendar is free and I can actually do stuff that I want to do.

And I can say, you know, I really don't want to go to that party. And then you don't change your mind. Right. But you change your default answer from a yes to a no. And then that default becomes something that you can do, which is why the fourth rule is you can only play the game for seven days. Because if I learned anything from James Clear, it's not about how long you practice something.

And I can say, you know, I really don't want to go to that party. And then you don't change your mind. Right. But you change your default answer from a yes to a no. And then that default becomes something that you can do, which is why the fourth rule is you can only play the game for seven days. Because if I learned anything from James Clear, it's not about how long you practice something.

And I can say, you know, I really don't want to go to that party. And then you don't change your mind. Right. But you change your default answer from a yes to a no. And then that default becomes something that you can do, which is why the fourth rule is you can only play the game for seven days. Because if I learned anything from James Clear, it's not about how long you practice something.

It's the repetitions by which you do that. And you're going to repeat that action hundreds of times a week.

It's the repetitions by which you do that. And you're going to repeat that action hundreds of times a week.

It's the repetitions by which you do that. And you're going to repeat that action hundreds of times a week.

Well, and it might hurt their feelings if you don't eat the peanuts. Are you going to eat the peanuts? Probably not, right? Because it'll kill you. But so if that's the case, when you think of anything that you dislike or genuinely don't want to do, it's almost in the same vein because on a long enough timeline, it kills your ability to experience joy and happiness and authenticity.

Well, and it might hurt their feelings if you don't eat the peanuts. Are you going to eat the peanuts? Probably not, right? Because it'll kill you. But so if that's the case, when you think of anything that you dislike or genuinely don't want to do, it's almost in the same vein because on a long enough timeline, it kills your ability to experience joy and happiness and authenticity.