Nick Pollard

Well, and it might hurt their feelings if you don't eat the peanuts. Are you going to eat the peanuts? Probably not, right? Because it'll kill you. But so if that's the case, when you think of anything that you dislike or genuinely don't want to do, it's almost in the same vein because on a long enough timeline, it kills your ability to experience joy and happiness and authenticity.

And then, you know, and so often I hear it like, how do I find myself? Well, So one of the core concepts, and you'd mentioned psychology before, and I'm not a psychologist. I'm just a person who's been through this.

And then, you know, and so often I hear it like, how do I find myself? Well, So one of the core concepts, and you'd mentioned psychology before, and I'm not a psychologist. I'm just a person who's been through this.

And then, you know, and so often I hear it like, how do I find myself? Well, So one of the core concepts, and you'd mentioned psychology before, and I'm not a psychologist. I'm just a person who's been through this.

And something I'd see in a lot of my clients is that they either didn't have a ton of play in childhood, so they were kind of caretakers or meeting the needs of their parents, et cetera, or they've forgotten how to play in adulthood. And because what we find is that, you know, if you don't play and you don't learn, then you can't self-define.

And something I'd see in a lot of my clients is that they either didn't have a ton of play in childhood, so they were kind of caretakers or meeting the needs of their parents, et cetera, or they've forgotten how to play in adulthood. And because what we find is that, you know, if you don't play and you don't learn, then you can't self-define.

And something I'd see in a lot of my clients is that they either didn't have a ton of play in childhood, so they were kind of caretakers or meeting the needs of their parents, et cetera, or they've forgotten how to play in adulthood. And because what we find is that, you know, if you don't play and you don't learn, then you can't self-define.

If you can't self-define, then you lose kind of a scope of who you are. So I actually believe, you know, people pleasers struggle with the idea of self-identity very often. And they're always asking me, like, how do I find myself? My advice is never do that. Never, ever find yourself. Constantly invent the new version of you. And through self-invention, you find more joy.

If you can't self-define, then you lose kind of a scope of who you are. So I actually believe, you know, people pleasers struggle with the idea of self-identity very often. And they're always asking me, like, how do I find myself? My advice is never do that. Never, ever find yourself. Constantly invent the new version of you. And through self-invention, you find more joy.

If you can't self-define, then you lose kind of a scope of who you are. So I actually believe, you know, people pleasers struggle with the idea of self-identity very often. And they're always asking me, like, how do I find myself? My advice is never do that. Never, ever find yourself. Constantly invent the new version of you. And through self-invention, you find more joy.

But you have to do that through play.

But you have to do that through play.

But you have to do that through play.

So I think I figured it out. This is a relatively new development for me. I have made an effort in the last 12 months to be more playful. And because I'd kind of lost all my whimsy. You've started a business. You know what I'm going through. I'm in year three of this thing. It's a fucking disaster. Eating glass. Right. I'm constantly lighting myself on fire.

So I think I figured it out. This is a relatively new development for me. I have made an effort in the last 12 months to be more playful. And because I'd kind of lost all my whimsy. You've started a business. You know what I'm going through. I'm in year three of this thing. It's a fucking disaster. Eating glass. Right. I'm constantly lighting myself on fire.

So I think I figured it out. This is a relatively new development for me. I have made an effort in the last 12 months to be more playful. And because I'd kind of lost all my whimsy. You've started a business. You know what I'm going through. I'm in year three of this thing. It's a fucking disaster. Eating glass. Right. I'm constantly lighting myself on fire.

And then trying to put myself out with kerosene. It's really great. But so I really made a commitment to myself. I was going to do more playful stuff. And. I was watching kids in the park the other day, and I'm watching them play, and it occurred to me that they're not just playing. To the adult, like to you and I, when we see kids play, what do we see?

And then trying to put myself out with kerosene. It's really great. But so I really made a commitment to myself. I was going to do more playful stuff. And. I was watching kids in the park the other day, and I'm watching them play, and it occurred to me that they're not just playing. To the adult, like to you and I, when we see kids play, what do we see?

And then trying to put myself out with kerosene. It's really great. But so I really made a commitment to myself. I was going to do more playful stuff. And. I was watching kids in the park the other day, and I'm watching them play, and it occurred to me that they're not just playing. To the adult, like to you and I, when we see kids play, what do we see?

We see just fun, and they're on the jungle gym, and they're doing the thing, whatever they happen to be doing. And they're going to get hurt, and they're going to do whatever. But they're not playing. They're learning. they're discovering through play, like what are their boundaries? What can they physically tolerate? What do they like? What don't they like?