Nick Pollard

We see just fun, and they're on the jungle gym, and they're doing the thing, whatever they happen to be doing. And they're going to get hurt, and they're going to do whatever. But they're not playing. They're learning. they're discovering through play, like what are their boundaries? What can they physically tolerate? What do they like? What don't they like?

We see just fun, and they're on the jungle gym, and they're doing the thing, whatever they happen to be doing. And they're going to get hurt, and they're going to do whatever. But they're not playing. They're learning. they're discovering through play, like what are their boundaries? What can they physically tolerate? What do they like? What don't they like?

And they do that by playing with each other. And then very often they're putting on personas of who they want to be. So, you know, one kid wants to be Iron Man. One guy wants to be a fireman. One little girl wants to be a princess. Somebody else wants to be something else, right?

And they do that by playing with each other. And then very often they're putting on personas of who they want to be. So, you know, one kid wants to be Iron Man. One guy wants to be a fireman. One little girl wants to be a princess. Somebody else wants to be something else, right?

And they do that by playing with each other. And then very often they're putting on personas of who they want to be. So, you know, one kid wants to be Iron Man. One guy wants to be a fireman. One little girl wants to be a princess. Somebody else wants to be something else, right?

And through that idea of like self-invention, that's how they start to form the idea of like, what is their definition of self? And I think adults don't play enough to continue that self-invention process. So they lose contact with that core kid where they're like, okay, well now who am I? Well, I don't know. You haven't spent any time inventing that.

And through that idea of like self-invention, that's how they start to form the idea of like, what is their definition of self? And I think adults don't play enough to continue that self-invention process. So they lose contact with that core kid where they're like, okay, well now who am I? Well, I don't know. You haven't spent any time inventing that.

And through that idea of like self-invention, that's how they start to form the idea of like, what is their definition of self? And I think adults don't play enough to continue that self-invention process. So they lose contact with that core kid where they're like, okay, well now who am I? Well, I don't know. You haven't spent any time inventing that.

And it comes from... So often, anyway, I think it shows up in a ton of these guys and girls is like giving to themselves feels inappropriate. It feels so they're kind of racked with shame. It's in the same way that so people pleasing very often can mirror addiction in terms of, you know, I would say it's North Star, which is shame.

And it comes from... So often, anyway, I think it shows up in a ton of these guys and girls is like giving to themselves feels inappropriate. It feels so they're kind of racked with shame. It's in the same way that so people pleasing very often can mirror addiction in terms of, you know, I would say it's North Star, which is shame.

And it comes from... So often, anyway, I think it shows up in a ton of these guys and girls is like giving to themselves feels inappropriate. It feels so they're kind of racked with shame. It's in the same way that so people pleasing very often can mirror addiction in terms of, you know, I would say it's North Star, which is shame.

So when you're trying to make everyone around you happy, you're basically kind of always in this modality of trying to appease this inner voice that says, I'm not good enough. I'm not enough, which is toxic change. Like I'm bad. I'm no good. Right. Rather than I did bad, you are bad. And. When you're always trying to prove yourself as better, that means deep at your core, what do you believe?

So when you're trying to make everyone around you happy, you're basically kind of always in this modality of trying to appease this inner voice that says, I'm not good enough. I'm not enough, which is toxic change. Like I'm bad. I'm no good. Right. Rather than I did bad, you are bad. And. When you're always trying to prove yourself as better, that means deep at your core, what do you believe?

So when you're trying to make everyone around you happy, you're basically kind of always in this modality of trying to appease this inner voice that says, I'm not good enough. I'm not enough, which is toxic change. Like I'm bad. I'm no good. Right. Rather than I did bad, you are bad. And. When you're always trying to prove yourself as better, that means deep at your core, what do you believe?

It means that I'm not enough, right?

It means that I'm not enough, right?

It means that I'm not enough, right?

in the description below or heading to rpstrength.com slash modern wisdom using the code modern wisdom at checkout that's rpstrength.com slash modern wisdom and modern wisdom at checkout well ask any addict why that they're you know nobody wakes up in the morning goes fucking great i'm gonna do some heroin today like nobody's excited about that why do they do it it's to bury this feeling of toxicity in themselves and then it just kind of spirals out of control so

in the description below or heading to rpstrength.com slash modern wisdom using the code modern wisdom at checkout that's rpstrength.com slash modern wisdom and modern wisdom at checkout well ask any addict why that they're you know nobody wakes up in the morning goes fucking great i'm gonna do some heroin today like nobody's excited about that why do they do it it's to bury this feeling of toxicity in themselves and then it just kind of spirals out of control so

in the description below or heading to rpstrength.com slash modern wisdom using the code modern wisdom at checkout that's rpstrength.com slash modern wisdom and modern wisdom at checkout well ask any addict why that they're you know nobody wakes up in the morning goes fucking great i'm gonna do some heroin today like nobody's excited about that why do they do it it's to bury this feeling of toxicity in themselves and then it just kind of spirals out of control so