Nicole Kalil

Example number one, keeping your commitments.

We trust people who do what they say they're going to do.

We don't trust people who flake on us all the time.

And so the same thing is true about building our internal trust.

If we can

keep the commitments we make to others, but also to ourselves.

And I find we are typically better at keeping the commitments we make to our children, our spouse, our boss, our friends, family, than we are the ones that we make to ourselves.

And they're equally important as it relates to the trust we have in ourselves.

So if we say we're gonna work out consistently and then we don't, we're chipping away at trust that we have in ourselves.

So keeping commitments is pretty universal.

A component of that that I often talk about with women is don't overcommit.

Make sure when you say you're going to do something, you follow through because it is important as it relates to our confidence.

Another example would be boundaries, saying no when it should be no, saying yes when it's a firm yes, standing up for yourself, using your voice, being your own hype person, being your own cheerleader.

There are a lot of things that we do and can do that build trust.

But I would, again, go back to what matters most to you.

If you think about the trust you have with a best friend or with your significant other or whoever it might be, what is it about that relationship that makes you trust or where they trust you?

I'll be curious if you feel this way too.

Me using my voice has never been a challenge for me.

Like I've never had a hard time saying this is my opinion or these are my thoughts.

So isn't now wasn't then a big struggle for me.