Niko Emanuilidis
Appearances
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Love takes time. Seeing him every other day and talking all day long can't make that process happen faster. It takes time for that to happen. And a man who's after quick and casual doesn't want to put in that time. Men who are seriously dating are willing to put in that time because the most valuable thing we have is time.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And he will be willing to put in that work to get there. So I'd say that is a long answer. But that is my biggest thing. One of the biggest problems I see in dating is this. Oh, my God, we have a connection. I have to act on it. I have to see you every day. Talk all day long. Slow it down.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Slow it down, because honestly, it's more attractive if you're a little bit harder to get, a little bit aloof, a little bit mysterious. You're not super, super available. It's more attractive anyway. And you learn if you like somebody, like I said, through that space apart. Do you miss the person? All right, so that's great. That's a good sign.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
But if you're seeing them every other day, you don't know if you could even miss somebody. So slowing down that pace and controlling that anxious sort of looping thoughts and behaviors in yourself is probably one of the bigger problems that I see when people meet somebody who they're crazy about.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Yeah, so when I use the word playing games, and then there's game. Game is the understanding of attraction. Women have game. Men have game. Do you understand how to be the most attractive version of yourself? Do you know what the opposite sex finds attractive? So that's first and foremost. Playing games is using that knowledge to manipulate. We don't want somebody who's playing games.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
We want everyone to understand games. And understand just, you know, human psychology to a baseline level. I'm not a doctor, but like there's an understanding of this. And just like I was saying before, it's the being a little mysterious, not being super easy to contact all the time. And this it's not playing games. It's understanding.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
like the proper space and flow of how to slowly build a relationship. This is on both the man and the woman. So it's kind of hard to be like, this is all on the woman. Cause if a guy's not doing it and not showing up in that way, it's not going to work.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
But when I talk about like how a healthy masculine man sort of goes about the courting stages, exactly like to your point where you're like, I pull away if a guy's doing too much, which you should, because that is needy energy, needy behavior. And since you're extremely secure in yourself, you don't like that repels you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Like they talk about nice guys, nice guys typically give that sort of needy energy, which is not attractive. It's not attractive at all. But the reason why people – I'm going down a tangent here. But the reason why people find like quote-unquote like fuckboys attractive is because it's the opposite end of the spectrum where they give you no attention. So you're saying to yourself –
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
This guy must be so busy and so cool. And this might be subconscious or conscious. This guy must be so busy and so cool. I want to be a part of his life. I want to crack the code. That's attractive. That is never going to change. That is never going to change. So as a man, how do you manufacture that attraction? while also being a good guy, right? So when I talk to guys, it's not being too needy.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Of course. What an intro.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
We're not blowing women up. It's the same advice I give to men and women, but it's just sort of flipped. It's the one date per week. You're about your purpose. You're about your life. You're about the goals. You're working on your business, whatever you have going on. And you prioritize the woman who you're serious about appropriately for where you are in the relationship. One date per week,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And then you build from there where on the flip side, it's important that women look at it that same exact way because it's just a healthier pace to go about it. So it's funny that my man advice and women advice, although it's different as far as the attraction, like how to kind of go about things, but the messaging as far as how to build a healthy relationship or what that feels like is the same.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
I would like to hear how you- From a man's perspective or a woman's perspective?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So for a man, it's all dependent on the attraction level and the chemistry level. Right. So let's say you and I went out. Right. And it's like attraction. Chemistry is at a 10. Right. I knowing that the only way I could mess that up is if I came at you super needy.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
If you already really liked me, thought I was attractive, liked my vibe, liked my energy, the way I would mess that up with you is being too nice, too eager, all that kind of stuff that gives you the ick immediately. For a man understanding game, it's why is that fuckboy attractive? Because he's kind of aloof. All those things are bad because it's too much. But if you just reel that in...
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
like 40% and you kind of get that 60% level where it's like, no, I'm going to be about my business. I go to the gym, but I am going to be a good guy. I'm going to communicate. I'm going to set the dates once per week. There's going to be consistent communication, not constant communication. She's always going to know when I'm going to reach out to her. She knows when the date is.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And that's a direct, it's just like that boom, direct guy. That's got his shit together. That is attractive. That is extremely attractive. And that's what I noticed when I talked to all these women, most guys aren't moving like this. It's either side of the spectrum. Right. And it depends on your inner work and sort of like what you gravitate towards. Some people gravitate towards love bombers.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
I'm ready to break into song whenever you need. You know, I'm ready.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Some people gravitate towards guys who are, don't really show them any attention. And it's being able to acknowledge that and being like, okay, that is my pattern. My patterns, I go this way. So to fix it, I got to reel that back more to the other side, right? I need a little bit more of a healthy balance. The healthiest people are the people who sit more in the middle, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
You have both sides to your, you've seen both sides, you know how both types of energies feel, right? And you kind of bring yourself back to center. And I think that's a really important part of it is knowing what you're Past pattern is. And I think as far as knowing game for women, it's sort of what I was saying earlier. It's not giving girlfriend access too quickly.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
I do. I mean, that's why I have the handheld mic. I'm in a band. I've been a musician my whole life. So, yeah, that's why I got the handheld.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
You want to remain a little mysterious, a little hard to get the prize mentality. Men love accomplishing and achieving things that are hard. I mean, at least real men do. They want to accomplish the things that are hard.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So if getting you is super easy and he knows within the first few messages with you that like this girl, this woman's obsessed with me, he'll still like you because you're attractive and he wants to pursue it. But you kind of ruin a little bit of the potential magic where if you're just a little bit harder to get – I'm not talking about playing games.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Just like I said, just controlling the communication and how often you're giving this man access to come see you and whatnot. you can create like a magnet effect where men are just drawn to that. And a way to do that is kind of what you were talking about. You're busy. You're about your passions and your purpose and stuff like that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And I think that's a really helpful way to stay preoccupied so you're not like hyper-focused on – you know, men and whatnot. So there's like, there's a balance to it, but keeping that prize mentality, but really believing it, but also part of believing is playing a little bit of fake until you make it. So it's like, we can talk about that a little bit, but it's this balance of both.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And like that mentality is attractive and naturally will have guys wanting to quote unquote, like win.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Yeah, I think when I talk about masculine and feminine energies and polarities, I mean it's totally true, but we all have both within us. Like I have masculine and feminine energy. You have masculine and feminine energy. And with the right person, it will balance out correctly. And you need a polarity for there to be a healthy attraction, a healthy relationship. So either way, like –
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Either the guy's really masculine and you're feminine or you're really masculine and he's more in his feminine. There needs to be some sort of polarity there for it to work. But with the right man for you, I'm sure you've experienced this. You'll go on like 20 dates and there'll be one guy who you're just like – I feel like I'm the most feminine version of myself.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
I don't have to think about anything. I just, I feel just so calm and relaxed and natural with this guy. And it's an amazing feeling. So, I mean, in today's society, I think we lack a lot of true masculine men and we have a lot of toxic masculine men. So it is a little bit harder to come by in that sense today. And especially if you are like a really successful woman,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
You are going to find less of that because naturally a guy who's not super successful and say you're more successful than him, he's going to naturally feel the competition there.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And because he doesn't make as much money as you or isn't as popular as you or whatever the case may be, triggers him and leads him to either trying to take you down or you'll just get more of like this closed off feminine energy kind of from him rather than like, just owning. Okay. Yeah. You're successful. Okay. Well, I'm, I'm daddy. It doesn't matter. You know what I mean?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So, but that's a, it's part of a man's journey. Like that's sort of that self journey where I talk about where for guys, you gotta be about your purpose. You gotta make your money.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
You gotta be on that life's path because that's where you get your true inner confidence as a man from being about fitness and just being that best version of yourself that you could be so that when you're around women, you're stepping into the most masculine version of yourself. And the masculine isn't a bad word. Feminine isn't a bad word, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
But it just depends on the context and what, how you actually feel, what you want to be, the type of partner that you want. You know, we all sort of gravitate towards different types of partners and the sort of relationship dynamic and nothing is
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
But I would say if you're feeling like you're stepping into you're always more feeling, quote unquote, more masculine, you got to determine, is it because I'm not finding the right person or am I coming into these relationships or these first dates or whatever the case may be too much in my logical mind?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And not sitting back and just really focusing on like the feeling I'm getting with this person. It might not change. It might not change. But if you're going in looking for like does he check off this box? Does he check off that box? Like what is he doing? What is this? You're not going to – that's logical thinking where femininity is more just like flowing and sitting back and feeling, feeling.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Yeah, no, it's a great question. So I think it sort of parallels with my own journey as a man, you know? So let's rewind 15 years or so, you know, getting into college. And I was always a charismatic person. I was class clown in high school.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So there's two parts of it. Like the right person for you will have you stepping more into – where you're supposed to be. And but then there's also that inner work of making sure that you are showing up as the best version of yourself and stepping into the version of yourself, like polarity wise that you want to be as well.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
The guy who's meant for you, who wants to be with you, won't mind going slower because he sees the big picture. He sees your value. Right when he met you, this is a girlfriend material. Like, I want to push this towards there. And he will be willing to put in that work to get there.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
I think that's true. But I also think, I mean, just from talking to you right now, you are perhaps a little bit of a harder person to put in that energy, right? Like it's going to take, there's a small percentage of guys who could make you feel that way. And that's just what it is. I mean it is what it is.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And you're a very successful person and you have your own things going on and you're loving the life you live. You need a guy who's at that level to make you feel that way or just has that inner confidence about himself that none of these things matter and it's just – boom, just like laser connection chemistry.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And it's almost like primal is kind of a weird word, but like sort of where none of the external factors matter. It's just the energy you're getting from this person is just like electric and you automatically sit into that polarity difference. So it's one of two things.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
He either needs to be on your level or he just needs to be a guy who just instinctually is just naturally in that sort of masculine energy. And it puts you right into your feminine very easily.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Totally, totally.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
No, but like, you know, these are my- these are my skill sets. But no, but the point is I wasn't good with women. Like I really wasn't. I was always asking my friends for advice. And because I was like, why am I not getting this? There's something I'm not getting. So at that time we're talking, I don't know, maybe 2011 or so something like that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Question for you. How long into the relationship did you start seeing that?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Yeah. Okay. So I usually say this. Why also talk about waiting a little bit longer, slower pace, because a man can't hide who he is forever. It's going to come out. So if you get super locked into this relationship with this guy, after just a few weeks or a month, you're, You're going to develop an empathy and this connection to a person who might not be right for you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And only time will tell that. So then a few months go by, like you said, because you are probably really good at that. You were able to see this guy is not who he said he was, where other people, if they were super locked into that relationship, they'll get to that point and they'll go, he's acting a little weird, but that must be because I'm not doing something. I need to help fix it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Like that people pleaser mentality, right? I mean, why is he pulling away? Why is he acting weird? I have to fix it. So the slower speed and observing over time, you're allowing your emotions the chance to kind of like go at the same pace as your logical mind instead of letting emotions go and then having the logical kind of keep up.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So this plays exactly into my point of a man can't hide who he is forever. You'll see this around – I would say this is sort of the times we start to see who the person really is. By three months, because I say by three months, you should be boyfriend and girlfriend. So like by three months.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And then I would say between six and eight months is when you get your real true dose of like, okay, I have a really pretty good understanding of who this person is now. And then by like a year, year and a half, you know the person. And then obviously from there, you kind of just get closer.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
But by three months, you should know enough about the person where you're like, okay, I'm ready to be in this relationship.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So I would actually see it as the opposite. I think the older you are, I would be okay with the title happening sooner. 30 years old, not boyfriend or girlfriend by three weeks, that's not good. I would say that's not good. But I do always say this, by that month mark, so let's say somewhere between three to five dates, right? You both should feel like you'll know with the right person.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Like this is probably a relationship. Like we're heading towards there. So you're going to feel like really secure and you should feel really secure with the right person that, you know, we're still early. We're still getting to know each other, but. this feels like probably my person or someone I will most likely be in a relationship with. And you won't be wondering.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
I started watching content creators at that time in the dating space and learning like, what am I doing wrong here? Like there is a skill to this. There's a skill to being attractive and tapping into your inner confidence and being attractive.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So if your friend kept bouncing really early, that's because there were some inconsistencies of something that wasn't, she wasn't feeling confident in the way things were going. And she maybe just has a tendency to bounce a little bit early. I mean, I don't know the scenarios, but.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
I hear it every single day, but like I said, you can't expedite the process of love. You can't. There's no way to make it move faster. If there's a connection, great. It's still going to take X amount of time for that connection to turn into a serious relationship. You can't expedite it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So that's a really good question. I mean, I think you need to first things first, get to a place in your life where you would say more or less, I would be just as happy single or in a relationship. And And that might sound like a little harsh and a little like kind of weird, but if you're not able to say that, and obviously after a breakup, you're going to be upset. Okay.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So that month after a breakup, literally cry every single day, all day long, cry as much as you need to cry, attack the feelings head on. And get it all out. Get it all out because after that, you should be so happy about the possibilities moving forward. It's a new era of your life. I don't know if you like Tony Robbins, but I love Tony Robbins. Your life is the life you focus on.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So if you're focused on the negative, oh, my God, we broke up. This is wrong. I'm not going to find somebody else. You're just going to stay miserable, right? Focusing on the positive and this new chapter that you might be entering into is That's going to be super empowering. And, you know, I talk all about just like just empowering yourself and finding that inner confidence and self-esteem.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
But breakups are hard. They're always going to be hard. They're never easy. But I would say even if you are in a relationship now and maybe you think it's getting a little rocky or whatnot. Start to try to find like the essence of who you were prior to that because realistically you shouldn't have really lost anything.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
But the right person, you're never going to lose who you are to be in a relationship with somebody. If you feel like you are not the same person that you were, that's a big red flag in my opinion. You should be a better version of that self, right? So you just need to get to a place where you could – Say that I would be just as happy and believe it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And just through my own, like I said, self-help journey, becoming a man, discovering myself, like really growing, I started to realize like, oh, wow, like I'm pretty good at this. And a lot of people just kind of naturally always gravitated to me for advice throughout the years. And I've always wanted a platform where I was helping people, coaching people, inspiring people.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And like I said, sometimes it's a fake until you make it. I am going to be just as happy single as it was in a relationship. I don't need somebody else to make me happy. I don't need somebody else. Happiness comes from within. You're in control of that. Really? So how your outlook on life and what you're looking at, are we going to grieve a loss of somebody? Of course.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Like, you know, it goes without saying, you're of course going to be upset that this person you've been in a relationship for a few years breaks up with you. But after that initial grief pass, it's time to move forward because looking back, what's that going to do? You know, unless you're constructively looking back and being like, okay, how could I do things different?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Another very good question. I would say if you're thinking about it all the time, if you're constantly thinking about what if, what if, what if, and waking up just baseline level unhappy, I would always say reflect back and say, when was I the happiest I've ever been? If your answer is two years before I started dating so-and-so, it's like, okay, well, you have a connection with a person.
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You have an attraction. There's a chemistry. Like, there was, and of course there is. But now it's more of like a parasitic relationship and a coping relationship, not a thriving one that's growing. So if that phrase, what I just said, resonates with you, I'd really think hard. Are you coping together or are you growing together?
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I love it.
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Okay.
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So a lot of guys struggle in dating. OK, that percentage of men who every woman seems to like, oh, my God, fuck those guys. They're horrible. We're talking about like 10 percent of men. Realistically, it's that top 10 percent of men. They say gets 90 percent of the women like they say. So that's like some quote, something like that. So a lot of men struggle with their confidence.
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They're not about their passion and their purpose in their life. They're not fit. They don't really know the proper way to be the most attractive version of themselves. So they tend to kind of just like botch the process by being too needy, too nice guy, which instinctually for women is repulsive. It's repulsive, right?
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There's being a kind man, a kind gentleman, and there's being a nice guy, people pleaser. So they tend to kind of...
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veer that way their style isn't up to point they're not hitting the gym and they're kind of lost there's a lot of like lost guys out there that are looking to try to like get women as a way to kind of build themselves up and that's why they start to gravitate towards toxic masculinity so it's either fuck women we hate women or it's what could i do to make a woman sleep with me so there's a lot of guys in that middle category that are just either really nice guys who have the potential
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To be daddy energy men because they have the right mindset. They just haven't learned game, learned the understanding of attraction. Or there are guys that go too far and they're just like – those are borderline incels. They're like – they hate women and they start to go down a really dark path.
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And it just kind of took me a while to really launch it. And about a year and a half ago or so, maybe like two years ago at this point, I launched the page, the Daddy Academy, which was just like an inside joke, the name of the page between me and my friends. I go, I just send funny videos to my friends, just kind of trying to inspire them to hit the gym and stuff like that.
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So there's this – I would say a majority of men are either stuck in their nice guy era or maybe trying to come back from a reformed fuckboy era. Those are good guys. Or guys who are like – Screw this. I'm done getting played by women who are just gold diggers. You hear that all the time. Oh, women are gold diggers. Like, dude, you make like 60 grand a year. She's not a gold digger.
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You make no money. So men do struggle in dating. And I think there are a lot of men who I'm rambling a little bit, but there are a lot of men who, you know. So emotionally, we're talking about like emotional intelligence.
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I think in the man space, like not a lot of guys talk about like what they're upset about and they bottle up feelings and it kind of doesn't allow them to blossom into that best version of themselves or to even feel what being in a healthy relationship is. So there's a lot of problems in the man space. It could be a whole other conversation. It's a combination of men who are
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jaded because some women messed them over and now they're going towards the fuck boy area or nice guys who are in their process of self-discovery who are just learning how to be the most attractive versions of themselves and are just sort of in that phase of kind of learning that through their self growth.
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I say I would prefer if he messaged you first, but I wouldn't say it's like a rule. When I talk about women making the first move, whether it's online, whether it's Instagram, DMing somebody, whether it's a dating app or in person, just like tapping someone on the shoulder and saying something, it's fine to make the first move. But after that, I always say hands off the wheel.
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So you make the move. And then see what he does with it because men aren't stupid. They know like, okay, this woman's talking to me or she messaged me first. She obviously likes me. I think I'm attractive and wants me to do something with it.
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If he doesn't do something with it, well, I mean, on a dating app, he wouldn't have a girlfriend, but I mean, I guess these days he might, but he either, if it's in person, he either has a girlfriend or he's not interested. And on a dating app, if he doesn't roll with it, he could be lukewarm interested, but you want a man that if you message him first, he's
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takes the wheel and like mess a few messages back and forth. And he's like, I would love to take you out. So you want a man that's like, boom, boom, boom. Let's get off the app. Let's get your phone number. What are you doing this weekend? High interest. We want to deal with people who have high interest in us. So it's okay to make the first move, but you want him to respond with high interest.
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And if his response is like, You just chat with him for two weeks and nothing happens. It's kind of, it's lukewarm. It's not, it's probably not going to blossom into anything, but it's okay to make a first move every now and again.
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Unless there's like a legitimate reason, like, Hey, I'm about to leave the country for a week and a half. I would love to take you out when I get back then. Okay. But if he's just chatting, chatting, chatting, that's called keeping you on you're on the hook. He's waiting until his schedule opens up enough to take you out. What is he prioritizing instead? Could be other women.
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I'm like, come on, Daddy Academy, let's get going. So I started posting videos and it was for the first like six months or so, slow as it typically is on social media. And then one day – because I was only talking towards men. I was like – my focus was I want to help men like me who were a little lost and trying to find themselves and get that inner confidence. And I was trying to coach men.
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Could be his business. Could be friends. Doesn't matter. It's not you. And if it's not you and if he's not willing to, I need to take this woman out. Like this is like, oh, my God, this girl's gorgeous. I got to take her out. If he doesn't feel that and isn't making that move quick, you're a roster option potentially.
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you want to invest in people who are high interest off the bat, moving it. That doesn't mean a guy who's like, we don't, but we don't want spontaneous. So we don't want a guy that messages you and say, what are you doing tonight? That's too available, right? That's too available. That's being, Oh, I'm eager. Wow. I messaged this girl and she went out with me like the same night.
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Like she's, she's crazy about me already, you know? So it's those boundaries of, no, he needs to book with me forever. three, four days in advance. You know, it depends. We could be a little flexible, but don't be super spontaneous with it and prioritize the men who have the high interest in you. I would say that's the biggest thing because red flags on dating apps are like very, very obvious.
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Like we all know what that looks like. Don't ignore the obvious red flags, but just prioritize the people who have a high interest.
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No, because men are the same at every age. The only difference is how older men might communicate differently than younger men. And the use of the phone is probably a little different. So other than that... The advice is basically the same. Could an older man might have like, you know, maybe he's divorced, maybe has some kids.
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So there are some other things that come in the way of his availability. Yeah, but that's a case by case thing that we kind of look at. But more or less, it's the same. Like if he has free time and you're not being prioritized in that free time, you're not a priority. All men are the same. Every age, they're the same.
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There's different priorities in their life and things that they have to do based on their age and their life situation and their businesses and whatnot. But more or less like this, the advice I give is applicable to every age.
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Yeah. And I think it's one of those things where... It's going to sound really funny. OK, like them shooting up into like a person who's not who wouldn't naturally be in their league. You kind of get more confidence, you know, like when you kind of almost when you completely sell to stepping outside your comfort zone and you just own it.
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Nothing to lose. Exactly. There's nothing to lose with a guy your age and you meet this guy your age. He's intimidated and he's a little more shy because he's like, wow, this is like exactly the type of person I'm looking for. And he might not come forth with that same level of confidence where a younger guy with you, it's like, there's nothing to lose here. Like I'm just shooting for the stars.
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And if we hit that, that's great.
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But as you might know on the internet when it comes to men dating advice, you typically see just a lot of toxic masculinity. And I was talking about very positive self-help kind of stuff. So it wasn't really hitting. And someone mentioned to me like, why don't you make a video – Talking about men but for women. And I'm like, that's a pretty good idea. I have a younger sister.
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I think it's equal. I would say it's totally equal. Online dating is a tool to meet people. You can meet people in person. You can meet people online. I mean, nowadays you can meet anyone literally anywhere. I don't think it's any less successful when you meet somebody in person. I mean, you're getting that true initial read right away.
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So you'll be able to feel if there's that camera, it kind of saves you some time if you met the person in person. And it's obviously more of like a romantic story than like we met on Bumble, but it's Like dating apps work still. I mean, a lot of people talk badly about them, but dating apps are still successful. You know, I think they're successful.
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Well, I would probably say this. To the really high quality guys, most likely like the really high quality guys most likely aren't on dating apps where the high quality women sometimes are. So like a lot of women might find like there are no guys like we're all like the guys I want to see. They're not on dating apps because everybody wants them.
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So why would they go on a dating app when they could just open their Instagram and they got like 20 girls DMing them?
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It's overwhelming.
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Well, if you really think about it, even if we want to talk about social media, because the two things are sort of combined, we aren't meant to see all these people, all these options. We're meant to go out in real life and see people and talk to people in person. So like I said, it's a great tool, but with everything that's amazing, there's always a downside to it.
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The downside to it is that it creates a lot of anxiety, creates a lot of depression. It creates a lot of like, uncertainty and frustration. So it's like I said, it's using the tool, but just managing it in a way that works for you. Like, you know, if you really don't like them and they cause you a lot of stress, turn it off, like delete it.
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But, but then you better be going out every single day with a big ass smile on your face. talking to every single person you walk by on the street, spreading love, being that beacon of good energy and good vibes.
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Because if you're not and you're just miserable, miserable, miserable, no one's going to talk to you and now you don't have a dating app and now no one wants to approach you because you look like a grumpy pants. So if you want to turn off the dating apps, that's fine.
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But then you got to completely change your attitude towards how you're entering life and behaving and your energy levels and the frequency you're buzzing at. So like I said, use dating apps as a tool. They're great. But if they're not for you, then we have to look at different methods to finding people. But I think some combination of everything is the best way to go.
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I've helped her and her friends count for years with dating advice. And I'm like, okay, yeah, that makes sense because essentially giving advice to women from where I'm at and through my experience is just flipping the cap around and giving sort of the opposite sort of perspective. So I made a video of what it means to have daddy energy, as my page is called.
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Yeah, I'm so excited about it. So it's called the Daddy Academy. It is going to be very similar to what I've been doing on TikTok Live, if anyone has followed me there, where people come on, ask questions. The format is going to be hilarious. The thing about me is I like having fun. I like laughing a little bit because the dating space, it's tough. We all...
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Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, I'm ready for my close-up.
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You know, there's a lot of problems here, so we've got to be able to laugh it off, have a smile, have a little bit of fun. So it's going to be a fun format, people coming on. It looks like a sexy professor's office. So I'm so, so excited to show with people. But, yeah, it's going to be a lot of engagement with my people in my community.
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So you want to come on the show, shoot me a DM, and it's going to be really special. So it's exactly what I've always wanted to do, so I'm really excited to be kicking it off.
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Yes. So if you want to follow me, Instagram at Nico, N-I-K-O-E-M-A-N. That's my Instagram. TikTok, well, we'll see if it gets banned or not, at the Daddy Academy. YouTube page at the Daddy Academy. So that's where the podcast is going to live, probably on Spotify as well. And if you want to work with me, hit the link in my bio on Instagram or TikTok, and it'll be a form you can fill out.
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And if you want to work with me one-on-one, fill that out and we'll get back to you and we can work together. And yes, that's basically it.
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It was so nice meeting you. This is great.
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You know, I will be. I decided to change that dynamic. I couldn't be more excited for what you're going to hear. Start learning and growing. I'm on this journey with me.
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And it went viral overnight, got like 30,000 followers in a day. And I just kind of kept answering the questions like and it's all women, women, women. I'm like, well, you know, there's there's a need in this space that I just kind of naturally stepped into. And who am I to fight it if women want the man dating coach and they want me to be a women's dating coach for the most part?
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I still coach with some men, but primarily it's women. So I'm like, I'm going to keep rolling with it. And I love it. And it's been great. It's been amazing. And that's sort of, you know, a year later. And that's kind of where we are today.
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That's great. I love that you're talking about it from a business perspective as well. I think when it comes to that, it's always about following the passion. And if you're not tapping into that inner soul purpose of the passion and why you want to do something, it's going to feel like you're trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. And it's not going to fit.
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And you're not going to wake up with that inspiration every morning to do it. And I saw the need. I saw the people that needed my help. And I see the reaction of people who I have helped. And I love that. And whether I'm helping men or women, I equally found that same gratification in it.
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So I made the pivot and it went great and inspired me even more to realize, oh, wow, like there was this need here that I could really step in and be a really important voice in this space. And I'm going to do it. And I think it's because I never – set out to be a woman's coach, which is why it has worked so well.
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Cause I didn't like try to be like, Oh yeah, I'm going to try to give women all this man dating advice. It just naturally happened, which I think sometimes if you just follow your purpose and like, I keep saying like your passion and what you're drawn to and wanting to do for others, Like there's always like, OK, we all want to make money. We all want to do this and that.
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But ultimately, our purpose here is to serve other people. And through doing that, that's how you get true happiness. I'm sure, you know, you probably talk about this a lot. And I just started doing that. And it's true. You know, it's just the success follows. And it's been great.
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That's a really good question as well. You're great with these questions. I love it.
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You know, I think first things first, you need to look at your natural God-given skill set, right? Like I was telling you earlier, I always knew I was a great communicator, charismatic. I'm good at inspiring and helping people. Like I just always knew that about myself. And I always knew that I have really good morals and really good intentions.
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So that was something that I've always known about myself, my ability to communicate effectively and help people. I also, years in the past, I was a basketball coach. So I was always used to like, and girls basketball, funny enough. So I was always talking and inspiring groups of people.
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So I always knew deep down that this is something that's meant for me, which is why like it's sort of just very naturally translated to a topic that I was really passionate about. And I think there's so many people out there on the internet. You might think that, oh my god, there's so many different people doing the same thing as me. How could I stand out? You stand out by being you.
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If you try to be somebody else, you're going to be just like somebody else. You have to do it your way. Like Sinatra says, I got the mic. I might as well just sing it. You got to do it your way. And be authentic to who you are. Know your skill sets. Know what you're passionate about. And if you follow that and you implement the hard work as far as, you know, you got to post every single day.
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You want to start a business. You want to be famous. You got to post every single day. And, you know, there's going to be days you don't want to do it. You got to do it anyway because you know why? It's not going to happen if you don't do it. No one is going to come pick you up and say, oh, my God, you're the next – I'm going to give you a million dollars. You're the next famous superstar.
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It's like, no, you have to put in the work even on days when you don't want to. And trust me, there are days where I'm like maybe I'm not feeling 100%. I'm a little down or whatnot. And I'm like, you know what? I still got to do what I got to do today. It's all about – you got to take care of yourself as well.
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If you're feeling burned out, you got to put that energy back into yourself because you can't help people if you're not feeling – you know, 100%. But more or less, it's just like anything, like it's not going to happen unless you put the effort in to make it happen. And, you know, the world's huge, there's a lot of people out there. So there's space for everyone to be successful and make money.
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Exactly. Because I mean, we all have our egos, we all have our goals. And once you start making about me, me, me, you kind of just start to overthink. I'm reading all these different books about thinking the power of now overthinking all these different things. I'm like, you have to present moment, just like you said. you're helping one person.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
If you're talking to the camera, you're helping that one person. If you're on a coaching call, you're helping that one person. And taking that emphasis off of me, me, me, put it on them. What could I do for this one person? How can I spread positivity, love, good energy?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And when you focus on that, yeah, once you get started, the hardest part is literally, let's say you have to film a video, is the getting up, putting the camera up, and starting it. Because once you get rolling, if this, like you said, is what you're meant to be doing, it just starts to flow naturally. And then you get into the state where you're like, Oh, okay. Like I'm kind of in it now.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And then it just flows. But I agree with you. You're totally right.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
See, it's so funny because every person's situation is so nuanced and different and yet it's really all the same at the same time. I think one of the biggest problems that I talk about a lot because we don't care about someone we went on a date with and it was like, okay, that's not who we care about. We care about making it work with the one person that we meet and there's the spark, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Because when you meet somebody and you feel that spark – What tends to happen is you want to see this person, you want to see this person, you want to talk to this person. And I think where a lot of people sort of mess up is they go too hot and heavy too quick. I make a lot of videos about this.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
A fast-paced relationship, from what I mean like you're texting all day long, you're talking on the phone, you're seeing him Wednesday, Saturday, Tuesday. It's just off the bat, the intensity is all the way at the top. That pace only benefits men because a man can get so much out of a relationship.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
If that's the speed in two weeks to a month, then a woman can, because odds are you're building that super strong connection. You're going to be more likely to be intimate. You He's playing house essentially. He's playing girlfriend for the month. He'll take you on a trip maybe. He'll take you here, take you there because men love spending their money doing cool things with beautiful women.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Why wouldn't they? That's the point of making money and do it. Men want to spend it on beautiful women. So they'll push the pace. I would say like he gets the hooks in and then after a month, after he's kind of gotten bored, he's like, all right, well, kind of on to the next one now. And that happens a lot.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
And a lot of people will say to me, well, Nico, like, no, if I feel like it's meant for me, like, why do I have to play games? It's not playing games. It's moving a little bit slower and protecting yourself. The right man for you won't mind moving a little bit slower because I always say healthy masculine men are okay with delayed gratification, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Men who want something out of you want it now, want it now, fast, fast, fast. So if a man is willing to pursue you, one date – I would say like one date per week for the first month. And then after that point, you could pick it up to twice a week. And then the communication, it should always be a positive upwards trajectory.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
When people jump into – we're talking all day long, phone calls, phone calls. You can't keep the engine running at 90% all the time. It's going to go down. And once it starts to go down, that's when you're going to get anxious and you're going to start spiraling. And then you start wondering, what is he doing? Does he like me anymore? And then maybe he pulls back even more. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Then he comes back. Oh, yeah, he loves me again. And it just creates this nightmare spiraling scenario when really if you just kind of kept him his arms distance because this is a stranger, you don't know this person yet. Keep him at arms distance and slowly over time because you can't expedite love. Love takes time. So until enough time has gone by, you wouldn't know the answer to that anyway.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Seeing him every other day and talking all day long can't make that process happen faster. It takes time for that to happen. And a man who's after quick and casual doesn't want to put in that time. Men who are seriously dating are willing to put in that time because the most valuable thing we have is time.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
So a guy who's after casual wants to maximize everything he can get out of you out of the shortest period of time possible. And the guy who's meant for you, who wants to be with you, won't mind going slower because he sees the big picture. He sees your value. Right when he met you, this is a girlfriend material. Like, I want to push this towards there.