Paul C. Brunson

He destroyed the myth of your attachment style as a child translating to your attachment style as an adult.

We always hear it.

That's completely mislabeled.

That is a myth.

And quite honestly, I have participated in perpetuating that myth myself.

And when I say I've participated, I've said countless times, oh, wow, your parents showed you love in this way.

Therefore, this is most likely your attachment style today.

Those two things don't necessarily go hand in hand.

So I like that he destroyed that myth.

And then secondly, to his point, it's inspirational.

It shows that you could have been non-secure as a child and become secure as an adult.

I am exactly what this data shows.

I'm exactly who he described.

I am avoidant with my friends.

But it's not because I don't care about them, I don't love them.

But I think about even my best friends, I will go weeks without a message.

And, you know, they all react differently.

And now I understand that their reaction could also be based on their attachment.

Some are just like, all right, cool.

That's the way Paul rolls.