Paul C. Brunson

So if you hate doctors, definitely go get a physical so that you don't have things going on that you don't know about.

It's not gonna save, your ignorance won't save you.

Three things that people should know before they get married.

One would be, what did their parents' conflicts look like?

So did their parents yell at each other?

Did their parents ice each other out?

Was there domestic violence and intimate partner abuse?

And then also, how does that translate to yours?

Because people tend, in my experience, to either become like their parents or the opposite.

So what does this look like?

And what was your reaction to it?

And what work, if any, have you done on that?

That's fair.

That's one.

Number two, I would say assess very clearly what your priorities are.

Like what's important to you?

If custody and your children is the most important thing to you, if economic outcome is what's most important to you, like identify very honestly for yourself what your goals are in terms of what's important here.

Because I will tell you an unfortunate reality

is the person who cares less about the well-being of the children has tactical advantage in custody litigation so if you don't care about your kids and screwing up your kids you have tactical advantage in custody litigation you can put them right in the middle of the situation you can weaponize them you can try to bribe them emotionally you can create loyalty binds and engage in alienation and negative gatekeeping like there's all kinds of horrible things you could do so identify

kind of what's important to me, what's important to my partner, and who are they?