Phil Barden

And those live with you over and over and over again in your mind.

Forever. Exactly. And it's happened to me. Even me being bold now, I mean, I've had a lot of things happen where I thought, yeah, now I practice. I'm bold. I wrote a book on bold. And I still sometimes have self-doubt and don't do something that I think and know I should because I get scared. of the same thing that I'm saying. But because of that not doing, that regret, I remember that feeling.

Forever. Exactly. And it's happened to me. Even me being bold now, I mean, I've had a lot of things happen where I thought, yeah, now I practice. I'm bold. I wrote a book on bold. And I still sometimes have self-doubt and don't do something that I think and know I should because I get scared. of the same thing that I'm saying. But because of that not doing, that regret, I remember that feeling.

Forever. Exactly. And it's happened to me. Even me being bold now, I mean, I've had a lot of things happen where I thought, yeah, now I practice. I'm bold. I wrote a book on bold. And I still sometimes have self-doubt and don't do something that I think and know I should because I get scared. of the same thing that I'm saying. But because of that not doing, that regret, I remember that feeling.

And so when you remember that feeling of regret or what if, that's a great motivator to not do it another time.

And so when you remember that feeling of regret or what if, that's a great motivator to not do it another time.

And so when you remember that feeling of regret or what if, that's a great motivator to not do it another time.

I agree with you. They're all basically sisters and brothers to each other, right? And confidence is the best way to gain confidence is through recognizing your other accomplishments that you've had and really, really kind of recognizing them and celebrating them, right? The best way...

I agree with you. They're all basically sisters and brothers to each other, right? And confidence is the best way to gain confidence is through recognizing your other accomplishments that you've had and really, really kind of recognizing them and celebrating them, right? The best way...

I agree with you. They're all basically sisters and brothers to each other, right? And confidence is the best way to gain confidence is through recognizing your other accomplishments that you've had and really, really kind of recognizing them and celebrating them, right? The best way...

In my opinion, people ask me all the time about confidence, like, well, how do you even get the confidence to do this? Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, right? And there has to have been some small wins in your life at some point, no matter how small they were, but recognizing those and holding on to those. And the other thing is you can count yourself. You have to count yourself.

In my opinion, people ask me all the time about confidence, like, well, how do you even get the confidence to do this? Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, right? And there has to have been some small wins in your life at some point, no matter how small they were, but recognizing those and holding on to those. And the other thing is you can count yourself. You have to count yourself.

In my opinion, people ask me all the time about confidence, like, well, how do you even get the confidence to do this? Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, right? And there has to have been some small wins in your life at some point, no matter how small they were, but recognizing those and holding on to those. And the other thing is you can count yourself. You have to count yourself.

Even if you kind of take a breath and say, OK, three, two, one, let's go. You know, even if it's being brave for 20 seconds, we can all do something for 20 seconds. You can do all these little things to kind of give you that like burst of confidence just to kind of get get through the door. Right. And over time, like I said, you're you're. your neuroplasticity starts to change.

Even if you kind of take a breath and say, OK, three, two, one, let's go. You know, even if it's being brave for 20 seconds, we can all do something for 20 seconds. You can do all these little things to kind of give you that like burst of confidence just to kind of get get through the door. Right. And over time, like I said, you're you're. your neuroplasticity starts to change.

Even if you kind of take a breath and say, OK, three, two, one, let's go. You know, even if it's being brave for 20 seconds, we can all do something for 20 seconds. You can do all these little things to kind of give you that like burst of confidence just to kind of get get through the door. Right. And over time, like I said, you're you're. your neuroplasticity starts to change.

And the reality is being courageous, being confident, the way people get that is by acting. is by doing and then seeing yourself doing those things and noticing these little wins and recognizing these little wins and doing these little brain tricks, like saying, okay, I'm not confident, but you know what? I can do this for 20 seconds. I can make this call or I can say this one thing.

And the reality is being courageous, being confident, the way people get that is by acting. is by doing and then seeing yourself doing those things and noticing these little wins and recognizing these little wins and doing these little brain tricks, like saying, okay, I'm not confident, but you know what? I can do this for 20 seconds. I can make this call or I can say this one thing.

And the reality is being courageous, being confident, the way people get that is by acting. is by doing and then seeing yourself doing those things and noticing these little wins and recognizing these little wins and doing these little brain tricks, like saying, okay, I'm not confident, but you know what? I can do this for 20 seconds. I can make this call or I can say this one thing.

And it's going to be 20 seconds. What's the worst that can happen in those 20 seconds? I don't get it? Okay. And there's ways to psych yourself up into that until that actually becomes your new normal.