Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz

Good afternoon, everybody.

So there was a line in this morning's dafiyomi that caught my eye, and I thought I had spoken about it before in the past, but I could not find it anywhere online.

Maybe I haven't, I just don't have good searching skills.

But the line that caught my eye was that the Gemara quotes something from someone by the name of Rami Bartamri, who was the father-in-law of Rami Bartikuli, which means that the father-in-law and son-in-law had the same name.

Now that is against B'Ferusha Tzavas Rabi Yudah Chassid to have a son-in-law and a father-in-law with the same name.

So the shayla becomes, is it muter to marry someone, whether it be a father-in-law, son-in-law, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, with the same name.

And more importantly than that discussion, because we're going to see there's not much in halakha,

against that, but more importantly is how do you manage it?

How do you then deal with calling your spouse around the house when your husband or wife, whatever, depending on which direction it goes in, has the same name?

Now, it should be pointed out that there is an alternate kirsten in the Gemara, the Rif, in Masach HaSchulun,

has the Gersen, it's pointed out on the side of the page, and that goes for Tzulim on the side of the page, that it's Rami bar Tamri, to who Rami bar Dikuli?

It makes sense, his father's name was Tamri and Dikuli, Dekel and Tamar, you know, it's probably, there's some theme over there, in terms of the name of the father, so the alternate Gersen, but there are other Gemara's and Sha's, there are other Gemara's and Sha's also, where we see that a father-in-law and a son-in-law have the same name.

It also could be that one of them is spelled Rami with Resh Alef Mem Yod, and the other one is Resh Mem Yod, and it could be that they're pronounced differently.

The Chuvah Zekan Aron Chael Beisam and Samech makes that Ha'ara.

So let's first talk about whether there's any problem with marrying someone with the same name as a parent, and then we'll talk about how to manage that situation.

So as far as doing it in the first place, so it's a Tzavah Srabi Yudah HaChassid.

where he says that you're not supposed to do it, and he doesn't give any reason for it.

So the Akhronim try to figure out what the reason is.

Why can't you marry somebody that is the same name as your parents?

So in the Tshuvos Priya Sada, He says it's Ayin Hara, somehow that it's going to be...