Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz

an ayin harat, that if ever there's a gzardin against one of the people, it's going to go on the wrong person, it's going to land in the wrong spot in the family, and it's not a good thing.

Okay, second possibility, he says, no, the problem is, they're going to be living in the same house, and the husband's going to be Tovea's wife for Tashmish or something like that, he's going to call her name, and the wrong woman's going to show up, it's going to be his mother, and they're going to get confused,

And that would be tragic, obviously.

A third explanation is the Chivas Tavar Elio in Simmon Laman Beis.

He says, very simply, it's a lack of covenant.

Meaning you're going to be calling someone by the same name that your parent has.

That's the most pashut reason, right?

Meaning that if you're calling someone that has the same name,

as your parents all the time.

So you're always using your parents' name and a lot of times probably in front of them.

So that would be the most obvious reason not to marry someone.

Why Rabbi Ta'al Chassid would have been upset about this.

There is a fourth reason suggested by Rabbi Ruben Margolios in the Makar Chassid on the Sefer Chassidim.

where he suggests that the concern is that a lot of times people like that their grandchildren or great-grandchildren should be named after them after they die.

But if the mother's still alive, they can't name after the puppy because, you know, the Ashkenazim don't name after the living, and it's going to cause a problem.

I actually have a Talmud whose mother will not let him go out with any girl that has the same name as his grandmother who's deceased, because then it's guaranteed that your children aren't going to be named after my mother.

It's a

short-sighted.

It's guaranteed that that name is going to stay in the family for a while.

If not that generation, then the next generation.