Randa Dutcher

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169 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Feb 2026 last heard 9 Feb

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And because I worked on me, my ex-husband at the time was like, wow, she's actually really great and I miss her.

And he came back around and long story short, through a lot of healing and work, we did reconcile and got remarried.

I'll speak in generalities only because, you know, there's abuse everywhere.

And I'm not going to say that every marriage is the same.

But for me and a lot of divorces, I think it takes two.

So while my husband was drinking every day and was having an affair, what got us to that point?

And that was I wasn't doing anything that made me fulfilled.

I became a nagaholic.

I just was controlling and I wanted it my way.

I was running the ship.

So anything I could do to make everyone else do it my way was exactly how I kind of pushed him into a corner.

I lacked fulfillment, yes.

And I didn't know how to connect or be vulnerable.

So I could do anything physically, clean the house, have the kids, make the kids, make meals, whatever.

But the heart, the vulnerability, the connection in that space was really what was lacking.

And so I went to fight or flight of NAG control and he went to...

So we have a few principles that we live by.

One is date your spouse.

If you don't, someone else will.

And then communicate, over-communicate.

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