Randy Paterson

I'm going to have you imagine that this person reacts in seven different ways, and you figure out how you're going to respond to each of the seven different ways. For a movie, give me a break. It's so much easier just to give in this time. But are you going to be happy giving in in this way every time for the rest of your life?

I'm going to have you imagine that this person reacts in seven different ways, and you figure out how you're going to respond to each of the seven different ways. For a movie, give me a break. It's so much easier just to give in this time. But are you going to be happy giving in in this way every time for the rest of your life?

Yes and yes. Learning assertiveness is very much like learning any other skill. It takes you out of your comfort zone. And the first little while that you do it, and frankly with assertiveness, often for quite a while, it feels unnatural. And it doesn't feel like it's just flowing smoothly out of you. You need to actually plot it out a little bit.

Yes and yes. Learning assertiveness is very much like learning any other skill. It takes you out of your comfort zone. And the first little while that you do it, and frankly with assertiveness, often for quite a while, it feels unnatural. And it doesn't feel like it's just flowing smoothly out of you. You need to actually plot it out a little bit.

Yes and yes. Learning assertiveness is very much like learning any other skill. It takes you out of your comfort zone. And the first little while that you do it, and frankly with assertiveness, often for quite a while, it feels unnatural. And it doesn't feel like it's just flowing smoothly out of you. You need to actually plot it out a little bit.

And I think that's how we learn anything, that feeling of, being outside my comfort zone, that's the feeling of my life growing.

And I think that's how we learn anything, that feeling of, being outside my comfort zone, that's the feeling of my life growing.

And I think that's how we learn anything, that feeling of, being outside my comfort zone, that's the feeling of my life growing.

Yeah. Well, that's an ideal situation. In fact, if both people are using an assertive stance, typically what it means is that they're both remaining calm. They're both figuring out what it is that they actually want. They're both defining the limits on their own behavior. And So actually, conflict resolution becomes much, much easier.

Yeah. Well, that's an ideal situation. In fact, if both people are using an assertive stance, typically what it means is that they're both remaining calm. They're both figuring out what it is that they actually want. They're both defining the limits on their own behavior. And So actually, conflict resolution becomes much, much easier.

Yeah. Well, that's an ideal situation. In fact, if both people are using an assertive stance, typically what it means is that they're both remaining calm. They're both figuring out what it is that they actually want. They're both defining the limits on their own behavior. And So actually, conflict resolution becomes much, much easier.

It's much harder if one person is being assertive and the other one is being aggressive. So generally speaking, these things tend to go better. But it may be that in setting your own boundaries, you realize that there is some kind of fundamental disagreement with the other person. And at that point, you have to figure out what you're willing to do. I've been using this silly movie example.

It's much harder if one person is being assertive and the other one is being aggressive. So generally speaking, these things tend to go better. But it may be that in setting your own boundaries, you realize that there is some kind of fundamental disagreement with the other person. And at that point, you have to figure out what you're willing to do. I've been using this silly movie example.

It's much harder if one person is being assertive and the other one is being aggressive. So generally speaking, these things tend to go better. But it may be that in setting your own boundaries, you realize that there is some kind of fundamental disagreement with the other person. And at that point, you have to figure out what you're willing to do. I've been using this silly movie example.

It is a very low wattage example, I realize. But it might mean, Well, I'm going to go see this movie and you can go to whichever one you want. In other words, I'm going to control my own behavior and not yours.

It is a very low wattage example, I realize. But it might mean, Well, I'm going to go see this movie and you can go to whichever one you want. In other words, I'm going to control my own behavior and not yours.

It is a very low wattage example, I realize. But it might mean, Well, I'm going to go see this movie and you can go to whichever one you want. In other words, I'm going to control my own behavior and not yours.

yes they are intertwined and in many people's minds what they really need is to develop the confidence and then the assertiveness will come and what i suggest is that confidence is always a um an outcome not a cause confidence is the result of setting proper boundaries it is the result of practicing new skills Imagine a person deciding they wanted to go swimming.

yes they are intertwined and in many people's minds what they really need is to develop the confidence and then the assertiveness will come and what i suggest is that confidence is always a um an outcome not a cause confidence is the result of setting proper boundaries it is the result of practicing new skills Imagine a person deciding they wanted to go swimming.

yes they are intertwined and in many people's minds what they really need is to develop the confidence and then the assertiveness will come and what i suggest is that confidence is always a um an outcome not a cause confidence is the result of setting proper boundaries it is the result of practicing new skills Imagine a person deciding they wanted to go swimming.