Ranjay Gulati

So you don't just do a brave thing.

You actually are becoming a braver person because you start to believe that self-belief you update in your own mind.

The internal narrative that we have shifts from I avoid hard things to I'm someone who can face them.

And so I firmly believe that people don't just do brave things.

When they do, they become braver people.

So Tolga asks a great question, and this gets to the heart of my project.

I mean, if there was only nature, then I didn't have much to write about.

My entire book is premised on the idea that maybe there are a set of practices that we can learn, but it's not some kind of classroom skill.

You can't teach people courage by saying, come on, from tomorrow you're going to be brave.

We teach it by helping them act and then reflect on

So we don't teach them by telling them, oh, from tomorrow be fearless or deal with fear.

We sort of make them prove to themselves that they can function while afraid.

How do you build a relationship with fear?

And so understanding how to take on fear head on, I think is a conditioning and understanding that comes with taking action and showing yourself, I know, I think I can do this.

I was scared of snakes.

I'm not scared of snakes.

Now, it's important to distinguish on the one extreme when Aristotle wrote about courage, talked about cowardice at the one extreme and reckless at the other extreme.

And courage was in the middle.

So courage is about understanding the risks involved.

What are the pros and cons of this action?