Richard Reeves

The great gift of the women's movement has been to expand the ways in which it's okay to be a woman, to expand the opportunities for identity that women can take.

And I'm not saying that we've finished that job yet, but we should do the same for men.

So we shouldn't be trying to narrow what it means to be a man.

We should be trying to expand what it means to be a man, but also not in any way pathologizing the things that tend to skew a little bit more male.

So if men are a little bit more risk-taking, let's channel that in a positive direction.

And so I worry a lot sometimes.

People say, what's your solution?

What's your formula for masculinity?

And you either end up just saying something that just sounds incredibly vague or you end up with a prescription.

Somehow like A plus B minus C is the modern masculine formula.

And that's not the world we want to live in.

I don't want to put my wife or my female friends in some sort of box as to what it means to be a good woman.

And I don't want my sons.

I don't want to put them in a box either.