Richie Jolivette
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118 appearances
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1 series
first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
Richie Jolivette’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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It's funny how we all do the same steps.
Like playing around with the idea of not having the ring on anymore.
And the people who might care for even a moment and have something to say are the people whose like opinions you don't really care about. Like the people who don't. negative reactions to my divorce or, you know, they, when I say negative reactions, usually it's them assuming something happened that didn't and, you know, placing a store on, on my life.
Oh, I think, I mean, one, I think in general is just the assumption that like there was cheating and, And like, what other reason could there have been? And not to say I would stay with someone who cheated, but I'm like, there are worse things to do to a person than in a marriage and cheating. You're living your life with someone. Like, there are other things that are more important.
It's really just assuming something like in general, but also assuming something shallow. I think that was like the biggest thing that irked me was was people assuming that, like, one of us must have cheated. And also, after the fact, the money situation, which I'm not... money is such a dirty word to so many people, but if you work hard, you're making money.
And it just, it bothered me that a lot of the assumption was that I either married my ex-husband for money or that, you know, I was part of why I got divorced was because he couldn't afford to do something for me. Or I had a few people be like, oh, it's so nice that he's letting you live in that house. Letting, this is my fucking house. I bought this house.
I'm also successful.
I'm smart with money. I also surround myself with a lot of other people who are smart with money. And I know that life isn't fair, right? Like I have access to certain things. I have access to people who are great at business and I can learn from them, you know? But I'm also smart and I'm also a hard worker. And I just, the jump is so crazy to me.
yeah that people can't understand it or that once that you even have to explain it why is the assumption that a man did something right yeah that or yeah let's be clear when I got divorced I had to pay my ex okay yeah I did not get a check I didn't say it I didn't say it I didn't say it
When you have to do something hard, rip the bandaid off. Just do it quickly because when you're dragging it out, you think you're maybe like saving someone else's feelings or doing whatever. You're just making it harder for everybody else. And once you make that decision, of course, be sure. And especially with a relationship and a marriage, you have to be sure. But-
you know, if you're sure, like I knew before, that's the first question people ask. They're, they're, they want to, because they want to know if they're in the same boat. They're like, oh, do, well, how did, did you know? When did you know? I'm like, I knew before I made a bad decision for other people. But once I decided, once I realized I did, I ripped the bandaid off.
You saw how quickly it happened. Once I left the, when I made that decision, same day. All my stuff was out. And when people would ask, oh, would you go back? I did not return to that watering hole. Not once.
I knew I had to move forward. And therapy. That's my other piece of advice. The first thing I did was I said, I'm going, I'm finding a therapist. I'm going twice a week for a year, which I know is a lot of therapy, but I've seen so many people. be in a similar situation and it take them a really long time to heal.
And I felt like, you know, I was with this man for the majority, almost all of my twenties. I didn't want to waste any more time. And I wanted to be able to heal and, and take, you know, take the next step to be happy. I was miserable for a few years there and hiding it. I was like, I don't want to waste any more time not being happy. Cause that's really what it is.
Like, it's just trying to make sure you're, you're happy. And, and that no one that, again, the advice that no one cares, but just, and leaning on your girlfriend.
Honestly, I am having fun. And look, there's with anything in life, there's pros and cons, right? Like I do want to have a partner and settle down and do all this stuff, but we, our life expectancy is a lot longer than it used to be. 32 is young. I'm not in a rush whatsoever.
Especially I always say like date, like a divorcee, because I am way more afraid of being in a relationship that's wrong than I am of being alone. And that's not to say I'm not afraid of being alone. I'm a normal person. No one wants to be alone, but I'm enjoying it. And also there's way more people that have like been divorced or called off an engagement.
I just have to say, because I knew about your engagements, but when I started to get past the divorcing and I'm just, I was able to talk about it more freely. A lot of women have called off engagements and I know a lot of women who are divorced at 30 and, It's Emily Ratajkowski.
I mean, the timing, she got divorced right around the same time that I got separated and I was like, okay, she's making it, she's making it cheap. And honestly, I thought it would be, I thought dating would be harder. I thought more like, I thought men would care that I was divorced. And yeah, None of them have. They ask if you're getting back together with your ex.
And I'm like, oh, no, we don't have kids. We share a dog. But it's great that we share a dog because if I want to like run off with a guy on a trip, my ex-husband takes care of my dog. And Puck's going with his dad. He's going with his first daddy. We're looking for a stepdad.
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