Rob Henderson

So monogamy in particular.

Yeah, well, whenever you see media outlets with ideas like polyamory, living in a polycule or a thruple or some kind of an open relationship, usually in the media, it's a woman who is leading this idea and dragging her husband along or positioning herself as the one who wanted this.

But then when you look at the actual survey data,

men are three times more likely than women to be interested in a polyamorous arrangement or an open relationship or swinging or throuples, which, I mean, that's unsurprising given everything we know about differences between men and women and interest in variety and having multiple partners and so on.

But because I think that people view or a lot of people view sex differences as distasteful, they don't like the fact that men have kind of different sexuality from women, that the idea is to make men and women exactly the same.

So if survey data and everyday common sense indicates that men would be more interested in polyamory or swinging or open relationships,

well, then a lot of people would say, well, we need to make women the same way and promote this idea that women are the same as men.

And that's why you see a lot of these articles and these ideas of women into polyamory or into, there was an article in New York Magazine, why women are quiet quitting their husbands and experimenting and stepping out.

And another article from the New York Times, the case for ending a pretty good marriage

And so I just think there's this discomfort with differences.

And so instead you have to reshape the narrative of, okay, well, it's actually women who want this, not men.

But often I think when you read the stories of a lot of these women,

And if you read a book, like, you know, I've spoken about David Buss before, Dr. Drew.

David Buss's book, Why Women Have Sex.

Yeah.

Yeah.

One of the best evolution.

I mean, he was a pioneer in the field, but he co-authored this book with another psychologist, Cindy Meston.

The book was called Why Women Have Sex.

And, you know, it was interesting because women have sex for different reasons and often from why men do.