Robert Glazer

Those, again, are much more helpful answers to how you show up as a leader and a friend and a family member.

That's the real thing.

I got to tell you, some people's definition of a family is you have your family's back no matter what.

That's not mine.

I'm not.

I don't excuse the drunk uncle at the wedding who's doing really inappropriate things and just be like, oh, that's just Uncle Harry touching all the girls on their butts.

But honestly, that's what I'm saying.

People have really different definitions of family.

Some believe you defend family to the death no matter how horrible they are to you.

So it's important to understand what people mean by that.

What is the thing about family that I actually value?

What is my non-negotiable about family?

It's always showing up.

It's always having people's back.

And that is the same way that you show up as a leader.

It's the same way you show up as a friend.

And it can give you that rubric.

I've used in one of my keynotes an example of, hey, if your definition of family gets to you should always show up, as a friend, your dad's father dies and you're really busy and you're not sure if you should go to the funeral, you should go because you're going to feel horrible about yourself.

I had a guy come up to me after my speech with that hypothetical answer and say, you know what, I actually think my core value is similar to that.

And I missed a funeral 10 years ago and I think about it like almost like every month.