Romy
Appearances
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Oh, it's going. I'm a first 11 listeners of your show. Yes!
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
For sure. I love your show. You're a saint. Thank you. Yes, thank you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Well, I'm a great listener, but I don't know if I'm such a great participant.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah, so I'm going to start by saying that jealousy is a thief of joy. Okay. And, well... This woman that is my husband's ex-wife, she is very in the center of everything. And even still in the family that I'm married into. And I get it. We have two children together. Um, which are grown now and we're very close to actually the kids and I are like her, his adult children are still very close.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Like we're very close to each other. And so that's not a problem at all. My husband's completely like, I'm not interested in this woman. Like you must know this. So, and I believe it. Like it's, it's me, it's me and this woman. I don't know. What on earth it is. Like I'm obsessively always looking at her Facebook and see if she posted anything new, whether it's Instagram or whatever.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
And it's just, it feels ridiculous on my part. And I just wanted to see if there's anything I can do to stop these intrusive thoughts of hers.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah, and she's always the epicenter of everything. Okay, what does that mean?
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Maybe, because if anything happens in the family, she has to message my husband, even though he doesn't like that, or he doesn't really answer her, or he'll just give a really short yes or no.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah. I don't know, John.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
That's insane.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah, yeah, please.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Her life, her good life.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah, but we work hard every day. Not that we just make ends meet, but we're grinding the grind every day. What makes you think she's not? She goes to the Bahamas for four months in the winter. Then they have this marina up north in this coveted place in Canada. She just seems like she's you know, riding the gravy train. But I mean, you're right.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
I don't know for sure if everything is so gravy or if it just looks that way. Right.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Maybe that could be, John. Oh, God, I don't want to put more things in your head.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
That perfect, you know, going away for four months. Because I'm like, I love the South and I love the beach. And it's like, she's going there for four months. I can't even go there for a week.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah. Why? I know we've had a few knocks. Also in our life, but... No, no, no, no, no.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah. Yeah, I would say that's mostly it. Financial obligations.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
We've got a house and mortgage and... We have this line of credit we've got to pay down, which takes precedence over anything else. What is the line of credit for? I inherited some money from my mom when she passed a couple of years ago, but she got married again. And unbeknownst to us and my mom, her husband had claimed to this money, which we have already taken.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
used up on our house renovations and things like that. And then they went to court and we were on the hook for everything to pay this man back.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah, but she left him. She left him to be with me and to take care of her until she dies. She wasn't happy.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
No, she was already passed at that point.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah, my mom passed away.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah. And Canada law was like, yeah, he has a claim to it. To all of it? Yeah. It was 80%. But I had to pay all these lawyer fees too. So we were like really not in good shape. That's wild. Yeah. Yeah. So that really set us back. Yeah. Through my husband in a whirlwind of.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
It was altogether 120,000. Wow. I'm sorry that happened.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah. I mean, we should have been more proactive and revisited the will after she married this person, right? But we thought that because she made it out solely me, it's like, okay, it's ironclad, stamp on it, everything's good. So, you know, it was ignorance on our part, really. Yeah.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
So what do y'all do for a living? Well, I'm an over-the-road driver, and so is my husband, so we don't see each other all week. Okay. So we drive, drive.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
You know, I used to love it. I'm starting to kind of feel... Maybe not as happy about it. And maybe that is part of the part that's doing this whole thing with this woman, the ex. She has that great life and I'm sitting here.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Right, exactly.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Yeah. I know, and that's a great plan. And I said to my husband, let's just downsize. We don't need this big house. I know we have four kids between the two of us.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
They're adults. Yeah, they're adults. They come over for a weekend. Yeah. But we don't need all that room. We can make do with something smaller.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
You mean like if we sold it?
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Probably about $500,000.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
Right. Exactly. But I would, you know, jump on that, John. I would.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Does My Husband Have an Unhealthy Relationship With His Mom?
I promise I'm going to do what you ask.