Roxane Gay

You're alone and that you're single and,

You're not really sorry, but they need to know that you are not sitting around like waiting for them and waiting for their approval.

Yeah.

What really matters is not the man driving by and shouting out some nonsense or posting on the internet.

What matters is the young man who wants to ask out a girl or a young woman in his world and sees how your partner treats you and has a model for, oh, I should be loving.

Maybe I should compose a poem.

Yeah.

Maybe I should take her out on a date and open the door.

Like someone is watching.

People are always watching and taking notes.

And so the, one of the key things that we have to do is just keep modeling and

positive behavior and positive relationships.

One of the key things my parents did for my brothers and I is model a normal, and normal can mean lots of different things, but like a normal, healthy marriage.

It wasn't perfect, but they generally got along.

My dad never talked crazy to my mother ever.

He worshiped the ground that she walked on.

And so I married quite late in life because I was waiting for someone who would worship the ground I walk on.

And now there's worshiping all around the house.

Yes, it's awesome.

It's pretty great.