Roxane Gay

You can't only listen to the people who are like driving by and shouting ridiculous nonsense because they are the exception, not the rule.

And honestly, they're jealous.

They're just jealous.

I mean, bless their hearts that they are so willing to...

I mean, in many ways, it's like, oh my God, do you want to admit you have a small endowment and you can't pull a hottie?

Yes.

I would not personally be public about that if I couldn't pull a baddie.

But I pulled a baddie.

My wife is hot.

So I'm always like, live and let live because I know what I can pull.

They're just jealous.

And anytime a man says cuck, again, they're like talking about their own secret desires and fears.

Yes.

And so-

I have tried to rationalize that kind of nonsense with just recognizing that they're really reflecting their own insecurities and really pointing out they wish that they could have a hot girlfriend and a girlfriend who's smart and interesting.

And they also wish that they could be a rock star.

And so...

this is all about yearning and it's quite sad.

And I find that reframing that it's not that you're going to necessarily reach them, but they get a lot more quiet when you take on an empathetic tone and really sort of hit them where it hurts and just say, Oh my God, I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry.