Roxane Gay
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
He did not have a fitted sheet.
So, like, this is not new.
He was interesting enough.
Like...
He had long black hair and he kind of looked like the crow.
And so I was just like, this is hot.
And looking back as an adult, I'm like, girl, why did you let your body be on that bed with all of the cat hair and cat litter and love yourself a little more?
Yeah.
I just think that younger women love themselves just enough to hopefully avoid that situation or to only have it once so that it's formative and it reminds you like never again.
Because after that, I really did start making sure that the men I had dalliances with had sheets.
And like you basically clean a home and it doesn't have to be pristine, but the home has to show that you understand that you have to wash your bathtub.
Yes.
That's a baseline that we should expect.
Literally.
The toilet has to be scrubbed.
Yes.
I mean, you're right.
Don't give them oxygen.
And I will also say that
Modeling good behavior does work.