Ryan Soave

What about kids?

Yeah. And it's great that you made a distinction about just being language because, you know, people can say those things. Like I, my kids are very important to me. Probably I would say, you know, one of the most important things in my life is to be a father, right?

Yeah. And it's great that you made a distinction about just being language because, you know, people can say those things. Like I, my kids are very important to me. Probably I would say, you know, one of the most important things in my life is to be a father, right?

Yeah. And it's great that you made a distinction about just being language because, you know, people can say those things. Like I, my kids are very important to me. Probably I would say, you know, one of the most important things in my life is to be a father, right?

But if the energy in the house again and again, is that my kids are my life, what, what are, what a burden that is for that child, right? That means that, you know, like that child might in those instances show up in a way that they need to be happy. They need to perform. They need to they can't show sadness. They in order for that becomes their job to make their parents OK.

But if the energy in the house again and again, is that my kids are my life, what, what are, what a burden that is for that child, right? That means that, you know, like that child might in those instances show up in a way that they need to be happy. They need to perform. They need to they can't show sadness. They in order for that becomes their job to make their parents OK.

But if the energy in the house again and again, is that my kids are my life, what, what are, what a burden that is for that child, right? That means that, you know, like that child might in those instances show up in a way that they need to be happy. They need to perform. They need to they can't show sadness. They in order for that becomes their job to make their parents OK.

Yeah. I mean, it's a, it's a covert form of abuse to use our children to meet our needs. You know, we're there to meet their needs depending on their age, right? I mean, we're going to, you know, you have an infant, you're their highest power. You have to do it. They, they, they, uh, they can't survive without you. You know, they can't feed themselves and you carry them all the time. Right.

Yeah. I mean, it's a, it's a covert form of abuse to use our children to meet our needs. You know, we're there to meet their needs depending on their age, right? I mean, we're going to, you know, you have an infant, you're their highest power. You have to do it. They, they, they, uh, they can't survive without you. You know, they can't feed themselves and you carry them all the time. Right.

Yeah. I mean, it's a, it's a covert form of abuse to use our children to meet our needs. You know, we're there to meet their needs depending on their age, right? I mean, we're going to, you know, you have an infant, you're their highest power. You have to do it. They, they, they, uh, they can't survive without you. You know, they can't feed themselves and you carry them all the time. Right.

And then, you know, eventually they start crawling and walking and you carry them more than, than you don't. And then eventually they're walking all the time and you're carrying them just a little bit. And, you know, then you're not carrying them anymore. If you're still carrying them all the time when they're 16 or 17, that's a, that's a problem.

And then, you know, eventually they start crawling and walking and you carry them more than, than you don't. And then eventually they're walking all the time and you're carrying them just a little bit. And, you know, then you're not carrying them anymore. If you're still carrying them all the time when they're 16 or 17, that's a, that's a problem.

And then, you know, eventually they start crawling and walking and you carry them more than, than you don't. And then eventually they're walking all the time and you're carrying them just a little bit. And, you know, then you're not carrying them anymore. If you're still carrying them all the time when they're 16 or 17, that's a, that's a problem.

But when we're using them to meet our needs again and again, now it becomes their job to care for us. And most parents that do this, and I see this all the time, are not setting out and saying, I'm going to use my child to make me happy. They really have the best intentions. And it probably comes out of however they were shaped growing up and how their family was

But when we're using them to meet our needs again and again, now it becomes their job to care for us. And most parents that do this, and I see this all the time, are not setting out and saying, I'm going to use my child to make me happy. They really have the best intentions. And it probably comes out of however they were shaped growing up and how their family was

But when we're using them to meet our needs again and again, now it becomes their job to care for us. And most parents that do this, and I see this all the time, are not setting out and saying, I'm going to use my child to make me happy. They really have the best intentions. And it probably comes out of however they were shaped growing up and how their family was

You know, I see this, you know, with my kids, you know, sometimes I come home to their six and three and I come home from work and they're like, daddy, daddy, daddy. And they're running to me and they jump on me and it feels amazing. And other times I walk in and like they've got a show on or something and I'm like, hey, kids. And they're like, they don't even say anything now.

You know, I see this, you know, with my kids, you know, sometimes I come home to their six and three and I come home from work and they're like, daddy, daddy, daddy. And they're running to me and they jump on me and it feels amazing. And other times I walk in and like they've got a show on or something and I'm like, hey, kids. And they're like, they don't even say anything now.

You know, I see this, you know, with my kids, you know, sometimes I come home to their six and three and I come home from work and they're like, daddy, daddy, daddy. And they're running to me and they jump on me and it feels amazing. And other times I walk in and like they've got a show on or something and I'm like, hey, kids. And they're like, they don't even say anything now.

That doesn't feel great. But what I know is that doesn't mean they don't love me, right? If every day I came home and they were like in the middle of this and I forced them to get up and give me a hug, you do this once, it's not going to be a problem necessarily.