Ryan Soave

That doesn't feel great. But what I know is that doesn't mean they don't love me, right? If every day I came home and they were like in the middle of this and I forced them to get up and give me a hug, you do this once, it's not going to be a problem necessarily.

That doesn't feel great. But what I know is that doesn't mean they don't love me, right? If every day I came home and they were like in the middle of this and I forced them to get up and give me a hug, you do this once, it's not going to be a problem necessarily.

But if I did that every day and now I need them to give me a hug in order for me to feel safe and comfortable coming in the home or just feel happy, they're going to start having the job of we got to hug daddy in order for him to have a nice evening. That's a big job for a little kid to have.

But if I did that every day and now I need them to give me a hug in order for me to feel safe and comfortable coming in the home or just feel happy, they're going to start having the job of we got to hug daddy in order for him to have a nice evening. That's a big job for a little kid to have.

But if I did that every day and now I need them to give me a hug in order for me to feel safe and comfortable coming in the home or just feel happy, they're going to start having the job of we got to hug daddy in order for him to have a nice evening. That's a big job for a little kid to have.

And I see that play out a lot in the people that come to us and that they've unconsciously been assigned to these roles in childhood. Like, you know, they're the hero of the family. You know, we can use those the terms or the scapegoat or they're the you know, but really, what was the job that they were given? You know, it's my job to take care of mom and dad.

And I see that play out a lot in the people that come to us and that they've unconsciously been assigned to these roles in childhood. Like, you know, they're the hero of the family. You know, we can use those the terms or the scapegoat or they're the you know, but really, what was the job that they were given? You know, it's my job to take care of mom and dad.

And I see that play out a lot in the people that come to us and that they've unconsciously been assigned to these roles in childhood. Like, you know, they're the hero of the family. You know, we can use those the terms or the scapegoat or they're the you know, but really, what was the job that they were given? You know, it's my job to take care of mom and dad.

You know, maybe they were in the middle of the relationship or, you know, mom and dad are fighting all the time. But kids are often assigned these roles early on and then they don't know how to shed them later on. And so then they just use that role later in life. I mean, my field is full of people who are assigned roles, you know, therapists and nurses and things like that.

You know, maybe they were in the middle of the relationship or, you know, mom and dad are fighting all the time. But kids are often assigned these roles early on and then they don't know how to shed them later on. And so then they just use that role later in life. I mean, my field is full of people who are assigned roles, you know, therapists and nurses and things like that.

You know, maybe they were in the middle of the relationship or, you know, mom and dad are fighting all the time. But kids are often assigned these roles early on and then they don't know how to shed them later on. And so then they just use that role later in life. I mean, my field is full of people who are assigned roles, you know, therapists and nurses and things like that.

You know, we want to care for people. But it's hard to parse some of that stuff apart.

You know, we want to care for people. But it's hard to parse some of that stuff apart.

You know, we want to care for people. But it's hard to parse some of that stuff apart.

Because we don't want to blame parents for how their kids end up, but when we're doing work with our clients, we want to understand the patterns that were developed, not to blame them, but to start understanding what were the systemic challenges in the family system so that we can develop and deploy systemic solutions for them.

Because we don't want to blame parents for how their kids end up, but when we're doing work with our clients, we want to understand the patterns that were developed, not to blame them, but to start understanding what were the systemic challenges in the family system so that we can develop and deploy systemic solutions for them.

Because we don't want to blame parents for how their kids end up, but when we're doing work with our clients, we want to understand the patterns that were developed, not to blame them, but to start understanding what were the systemic challenges in the family system so that we can develop and deploy systemic solutions for them.

I mean, I think, how are you using it and what is it impacting if, if anything, but to be, be able to be honest with yourself about it, you know, it's very hard to be, it's, it's easy to say, be honest with yourself about it, but it's very hard to be honest with ourselves. You know, that's where being in relationship with others, sharing what you're experiencing. If you're taking 30 days off,

I mean, I think, how are you using it and what is it impacting if, if anything, but to be, be able to be honest with yourself about it, you know, it's very hard to be, it's, it's easy to say, be honest with yourself about it, but it's very hard to be honest with ourselves. You know, that's where being in relationship with others, sharing what you're experiencing. If you're taking 30 days off,

I mean, I think, how are you using it and what is it impacting if, if anything, but to be, be able to be honest with yourself about it, you know, it's very hard to be, it's, it's easy to say, be honest with yourself about it, but it's very hard to be honest with ourselves. You know, that's where being in relationship with others, sharing what you're experiencing. If you're taking 30 days off,