Ryan Soave
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I mean, now you can find it on any social media almost, maybe not anyone, but it's not really limited. And even if it's not, I know certain states have just put in where you have to put in your ID to get it, but there's tons of ways around that and other sites that people can go to.
I mean, now you can find it on any social media almost, maybe not anyone, but it's not really limited. And even if it's not, I know certain states have just put in where you have to put in your ID to get it, but there's tons of ways around that and other sites that people can go to.
I mean, now you can find it on any social media almost, maybe not anyone, but it's not really limited. And even if it's not, I know certain states have just put in where you have to put in your ID to get it, but there's tons of ways around that and other sites that people can go to.
And I've run into that with a lot of, it does seem to be young men, you know, and it's a way for them to play out some sort of fantasy around connection and relationship. And it makes their world really small. I don't think it's the same as gambling, but it can make their world very, very small in that they're, instead of finding relationships out in the world,
And I've run into that with a lot of, it does seem to be young men, you know, and it's a way for them to play out some sort of fantasy around connection and relationship. And it makes their world really small. I don't think it's the same as gambling, but it can make their world very, very small in that they're, instead of finding relationships out in the world,
And I've run into that with a lot of, it does seem to be young men, you know, and it's a way for them to play out some sort of fantasy around connection and relationship. And it makes their world really small. I don't think it's the same as gambling, but it can make their world very, very small in that they're, instead of finding relationships out in the world,
And it's not necessarily a relationship, but what they believe they're getting out of a relationship, they're then getting out of watching porn.
And it's not necessarily a relationship, but what they believe they're getting out of a relationship, they're then getting out of watching porn.
And it's not necessarily a relationship, but what they believe they're getting out of a relationship, they're then getting out of watching porn.
These are people that are asking you how they can stop. You know, they're telling you, I can't stop. How do I do it? So it can be similar to other addictions. You know, I mean, first the admission part that it's a problem or awareness that is, and then being able to start to talk to somebody and start to take some accountability around it, not accountability, like you're doing something wrong.
These are people that are asking you how they can stop. You know, they're telling you, I can't stop. How do I do it? So it can be similar to other addictions. You know, I mean, first the admission part that it's a problem or awareness that is, and then being able to start to talk to somebody and start to take some accountability around it, not accountability, like you're doing something wrong.
These are people that are asking you how they can stop. You know, they're telling you, I can't stop. How do I do it? So it can be similar to other addictions. You know, I mean, first the admission part that it's a problem or awareness that is, and then being able to start to talk to somebody and start to take some accountability around it, not accountability, like you're doing something wrong.
but to be able to have some sort of identify the behaviors that start leading to that. I mean, that can be done in therapy. There's other 12-step groups that can help people with that to identify what their sobriety would look like, if you want to call it sobriety, what it looks like. And if it does involve not watching any porn, then that's the rule set that they have.
but to be able to have some sort of identify the behaviors that start leading to that. I mean, that can be done in therapy. There's other 12-step groups that can help people with that to identify what their sobriety would look like, if you want to call it sobriety, what it looks like. And if it does involve not watching any porn, then that's the rule set that they have.
but to be able to have some sort of identify the behaviors that start leading to that. I mean, that can be done in therapy. There's other 12-step groups that can help people with that to identify what their sobriety would look like, if you want to call it sobriety, what it looks like. And if it does involve not watching any porn, then that's the rule set that they have.
And then they figure out either with their therapist or in their treatment center or with their sponsor or community in 12 step, like how am I going to be held accountable to that?
And then they figure out either with their therapist or in their treatment center or with their sponsor or community in 12 step, like how am I going to be held accountable to that?
And then they figure out either with their therapist or in their treatment center or with their sponsor or community in 12 step, like how am I going to be held accountable to that?
And that might be doing the things like we talked about, laying out, looking at your, your day ahead at the beginning, they might need to look at things like, you know, there's ways and software out there to not be able to look at that on your phone or have an accountability partner that can, you know, you have to, they have to approve websites you go to. And,
And that might be doing the things like we talked about, laying out, looking at your, your day ahead at the beginning, they might need to look at things like, you know, there's ways and software out there to not be able to look at that on your phone or have an accountability partner that can, you know, you have to, they have to approve websites you go to. And,