Ryan Soave

And then as they, you know, stabilize more physically, and then they stabilize emotionally, as we can start to raise their capacity to experience difficult emotions. I mean, I say this all the time to my clients, you know, what I really do with them is help them learn how to feel bad. You know, we don't put that on the website because no one's going to come to us to say, how can I feel really bad?

But I think that's, that's at the core of it. You know, how can we build a distress tolerance so that they can face discomfort, they can face pain and not choose the thing that gives immediate short-term relief and that's going to end up hurting them and those around them to allow them to really lean in to whatever that discomfort is.

But I think that's, that's at the core of it. You know, how can we build a distress tolerance so that they can face discomfort, they can face pain and not choose the thing that gives immediate short-term relief and that's going to end up hurting them and those around them to allow them to really lean in to whatever that discomfort is.

But I think that's, that's at the core of it. You know, how can we build a distress tolerance so that they can face discomfort, they can face pain and not choose the thing that gives immediate short-term relief and that's going to end up hurting them and those around them to allow them to really lean in to whatever that discomfort is.

And when people are able to be available for the depths of discomfort, then they're really become more available for the heights of joy and satisfaction in life. So we start to build that capacity so that then we can start looking at the beliefs that maybe, the limiting type beliefs that have been driving them that are often set from earlier on in their life and the way that they were shaped.

And when people are able to be available for the depths of discomfort, then they're really become more available for the heights of joy and satisfaction in life. So we start to build that capacity so that then we can start looking at the beliefs that maybe, the limiting type beliefs that have been driving them that are often set from earlier on in their life and the way that they were shaped.

And when people are able to be available for the depths of discomfort, then they're really become more available for the heights of joy and satisfaction in life. So we start to build that capacity so that then we can start looking at the beliefs that maybe, the limiting type beliefs that have been driving them that are often set from earlier on in their life and the way that they were shaped.

And that's often what we talk about as trauma, not always a big event that happened on a single day, although that does occur. But the shapings that people had in their life that were adaptive. People are very adaptive. And kids, and as they're in their formative years, develop strategies to live life that adapt them in a way that they can survive the environments that they're in.

And that's often what we talk about as trauma, not always a big event that happened on a single day, although that does occur. But the shapings that people had in their life that were adaptive. People are very adaptive. And kids, and as they're in their formative years, develop strategies to live life that adapt them in a way that they can survive the environments that they're in.

And that's often what we talk about as trauma, not always a big event that happened on a single day, although that does occur. But the shapings that people had in their life that were adaptive. People are very adaptive. And kids, and as they're in their formative years, develop strategies to live life that adapt them in a way that they can survive the environments that they're in.

And if that adaptation, which was appropriate in their family, their school, their environment, whatever it was, maybe all of those was something that was more toward like a survival response, like a fight or flight type response, And now that's never resolved in some way, in a way.

And if that adaptation, which was appropriate in their family, their school, their environment, whatever it was, maybe all of those was something that was more toward like a survival response, like a fight or flight type response, And now that's never resolved in some way, in a way.

And if that adaptation, which was appropriate in their family, their school, their environment, whatever it was, maybe all of those was something that was more toward like a survival response, like a fight or flight type response, And now that's never resolved in some way, in a way.

And then later in life, they're still applying these adaptive strategies in situations that it's not appropriate for.

And then later in life, they're still applying these adaptive strategies in situations that it's not appropriate for.

And then later in life, they're still applying these adaptive strategies in situations that it's not appropriate for.

I think that's a great test. I mean, probably more than an afternoon or a week, but can I quit for a month? And if you're If when you're when you've stopped, if all you're thinking about is either doing it or when you're doing it, all you're thinking about is how can I how can I stop doing this?

I think that's a great test. I mean, probably more than an afternoon or a week, but can I quit for a month? And if you're If when you're when you've stopped, if all you're thinking about is either doing it or when you're doing it, all you're thinking about is how can I how can I stop doing this?

I think that's a great test. I mean, probably more than an afternoon or a week, but can I quit for a month? And if you're If when you're when you've stopped, if all you're thinking about is either doing it or when you're doing it, all you're thinking about is how can I how can I stop doing this?

That's a pretty good indication that it has you, you know, and, you know, you also have to look at, like, what are the things that it's impacting in your in your life? And that's one of the things we can help people kind of orient to. And they might think that if it's somebody that comes to us at their family saying this is a huge problem, they may not see it yet. Or they may be avoiding it.