Sabrina Zohar

Anxious people are also emotionally unavailable because they're not actually understanding what's coming up for them.

They're focused on the other person.

So when we outsource, then are we being in touch with our own emotions?

Are we able to say, I feel this and this is how this impacted me?

For most people, they can't.

And so I think what we have to look at is, is there a discomfort with depth, with emotionality and with going there?

That's the first step that you're going to tell.

And my suggestion would be, please don't try to change them.

That is something that that person will do when they're ready and they have the capacity to do it.

But you coming into their life isn't going to be what changes it.

And that's the reality.

You accept it that they might not.

And that's the reality.

If there's somebody that's growth minded and says like my partner and I, we're in therapy because he is a thousand percent in of like, I want to work through this.

I don't want to be emotionally unavailable.

I don't want to be avoidant.

He's like, I want to be secure.

I want to show up for you as the man you deserve.

I didn't change.

I didn't make him do that.