Sabrina Zohar

But she never let me know that.

And so when we got to the register and she bought me like a pink dress I really wanted.

And I remember when we left, she said, just don't tell your siblings I bought this for you.

And I didn't understand it at the time.

And now I understand what she had to go through to save up money for like two months.

Every time my dad would give her a cup, she would put it in her pocket because she knew I deserved something that day.

And she took me to Ross.

She spent $20 on a dress.

But that made me feel like a million bucks.

And so when I met my partner, and I would say this means a lot to me, when he dismissed it, that was triggering for me.

And to your point, how was he going to know?

I don't expect him to read my mind.

I don't need him to just anticipate my needs.

There's no one on the planet that's going to do that, not even yourself.

But when I communicated that, and then we talked about it, now every year he makes sure it's special for me.

even though he doesn't care about it.

But that's part of that is that I can meet and you can meet and we go and we talk and we converse and we share.

But what's the real root of that is being vulnerable.

And people are scared to be vulnerable because if I'm vulnerable with you, you could reject me.

And if you reject me, that's the same wound I'm running away from.