Sabrina Zohar

She took her own life, unfortunately.

And he really struggled for that year to open up to anybody because he was in so much pain.

Now, is that because he didn't want to?

Absolutely not.

But he was emotionally unavailable because he couldn't hold the capacity for his own emotions.

How is he going to hold it for anybody else?

That's why they're shallow and they don't really go deep because it feels very scary.

And for a lot of people that are emotionally unavailable, it doesn't really matter the attachment style.

Here's the thing that people hate.

A lot of people like to say that the avoidance are the emotionally unavailable.

And while they might be, so are the anxious.

Anxious people are also emotionally unavailable because they're not actually understanding what's coming up for them.

They're focused on the other person.

So when we outsource, then are we being in touch with our own emotions?

Are we able to say, I feel this and this is how this impacted me?

For most people, they can't.

And so I think what we have to look at is, is there a discomfort with depth, with emotionality and with going there?

That's the first step that you're going to tell.

And my suggestion would be, please don't try to change them.

That is something that that person will do when they're ready and they have the capacity to do it.