Sabrina Zohar

It wants to keep you safe.

It's not trying to help you grow.

We have to rig the system.

And it's unlikely you'll believe it because your nervous system is like, you're gaslighting me.

That's not real.

So we have to push through that.

Like, it's very uncomfortable doing the work.

That's why most people don't want to do it.

But if you're here because you are, just know that there are other people that are, but you don't need to have the bandwidth and capacity if somebody isn't.

It's having the conversation with them of what are they going to do about it.

That's the real reality.

Because if somebody is consistently shutting down, they don't have that, there's a rupture, but there's no repair.

Well, then we have to say, and first of all, do they take accountability of that?

Are they trying to do anything about that?

Or are they saying, well, that's who I am and this is it?

Because you can absolutely work through that.

Maybe they learned it in childhood that confrontation means that they're bad, and so they shut down.

And maybe that means that, so that means that they need to go to therapy.

They need to understand what came up for them.

They have to learn how to be present.