Sabrina Zohar

I think what we need to learn is we have to look and see if I show up as me, how are they showing up as them?

And does that work for me?

Because for a lot of people, they're used to being abandoned.

They're used to having people go, well, you don't do what I want and I'm out.

But maybe they're not used to someone that says, well, I'm here by your side.

And if you're willing to do the work, I'll walk the journey with you.

And I think that's a really beautiful place to be in growth and expansion.

But two people have to be doing that.

And if one person is going to gaslight, deflect, shut down, walk out, do this and go, well, I'm not going to talk about it.

I don't know what you're hoping is going to change.

That's why as you do the work, your circle gets smaller because you start to realize you're here because I benefit.

You're here because you need something.

You're here because you're bored.

You're here for whatever the reasons are.

And that's why grief is so large.

Because if I don't grieve the ending of things, then I'm not going to be able to also create new things.

If we just constantly try to hold on to somebody all of our lives and say, I'm only okay if I have them, you're never going to actually be able to grow anything else because you're keeping just that plot of land.

And even if the flowers are dying, I always use the example, if a house burns down, you can't rebuild it with the ashes.

You have to be the phoenix that rises and rebuild it with something more solid and more concrete.

And it's okay to let it come crashing down.