Sabrina Zohar

And then all of a sudden we wonder why people go, but in my relationship, I'm bored. Which, Paula, I say this with love, but given what you shared about earlier, that high and low, that's, I think, why. It's because you want to feel that excitement so that it'll keep going, but then you notice how eventually it's going to come down.

And then all of a sudden we wonder why people go, but in my relationship, I'm bored. Which, Paula, I say this with love, but given what you shared about earlier, that high and low, that's, I think, why. It's because you want to feel that excitement so that it'll keep going, but then you notice how eventually it's going to come down.

So you felt the spark with these guys and you look back and you're like, yeah, they were all abusive or whatever, not abusive, but controlling or this or that, right? Whatever, insert this word. Because what ends up happening is, let me ask you this, the spark, right? You feel that. If you weren't attracted to that person, you'd probably be like, I need to get out of here. Something feels off.

So you felt the spark with these guys and you look back and you're like, yeah, they were all abusive or whatever, not abusive, but controlling or this or that, right? Whatever, insert this word. Because what ends up happening is, let me ask you this, the spark, right? You feel that. If you weren't attracted to that person, you'd probably be like, I need to get out of here. Something feels off.

So you felt the spark with these guys and you look back and you're like, yeah, they were all abusive or whatever, not abusive, but controlling or this or that, right? Whatever, insert this word. Because what ends up happening is, let me ask you this, the spark, right? You feel that. If you weren't attracted to that person, you'd probably be like, I need to get out of here. Something feels off.

So you felt the spark with these guys and you look back and you're like, yeah, they were all abusive or whatever, not abusive, but controlling or this or that, right? Whatever, insert this word. Because what ends up happening is, let me ask you this, the spark, right? You feel that. If you weren't attracted to that person, you'd probably be like, I need to get out of here. Something feels off.

So you felt the spark with these guys and you look back and you're like, yeah, they were all abusive or whatever, not abusive, but controlling or this or that, right? Whatever, insert this word. Because what ends up happening is, let me ask you this, the spark, right? You feel that. If you weren't attracted to that person, you'd probably be like, I need to get out of here. Something feels off.

And so we want to find a baseline, something that feels just calm and secure. The reason I bring up coffee dates is because of the timing thing. If you were like, oh, I'm not running a business. I got plenty of time. I got all these nights I could go out to dinner. Great. Do what feels comfortable.

And so we want to find a baseline, something that feels just calm and secure. The reason I bring up coffee dates is because of the timing thing. If you were like, oh, I'm not running a business. I got plenty of time. I got all these nights I could go out to dinner. Great. Do what feels comfortable.

And so we want to find a baseline, something that feels just calm and secure. The reason I bring up coffee dates is because of the timing thing. If you were like, oh, I'm not running a business. I got plenty of time. I got all these nights I could go out to dinner. Great. Do what feels comfortable.

And so we want to find a baseline, something that feels just calm and secure. The reason I bring up coffee dates is because of the timing thing. If you were like, oh, I'm not running a business. I got plenty of time. I got all these nights I could go out to dinner. Great. Do what feels comfortable.

And so we want to find a baseline, something that feels just calm and secure. The reason I bring up coffee dates is because of the timing thing. If you were like, oh, I'm not running a business. I got plenty of time. I got all these nights I could go out to dinner. Great. Do what feels comfortable.

But then we hear the, well, I got ready and I did my makeup and my hair and this person never called me back. It's like, because no one owes you anything. And so that's me respecting my time and my boundaries saying, you don't owe me anything and I don't owe you anything. Let's meet at Erewhon for 30 minutes. Let's have a quick jive. If we get it, great. I'd love to go to dinner with you.

But then we hear the, well, I got ready and I did my makeup and my hair and this person never called me back. It's like, because no one owes you anything. And so that's me respecting my time and my boundaries saying, you don't owe me anything and I don't owe you anything. Let's meet at Erewhon for 30 minutes. Let's have a quick jive. If we get it, great. I'd love to go to dinner with you.

But then we hear the, well, I got ready and I did my makeup and my hair and this person never called me back. It's like, because no one owes you anything. And so that's me respecting my time and my boundaries saying, you don't owe me anything and I don't owe you anything. Let's meet at Erewhon for 30 minutes. Let's have a quick jive. If we get it, great. I'd love to go to dinner with you.

But then we hear the, well, I got ready and I did my makeup and my hair and this person never called me back. It's like, because no one owes you anything. And so that's me respecting my time and my boundaries saying, you don't owe me anything and I don't owe you anything. Let's meet at Erewhon for 30 minutes. Let's have a quick jive. If we get it, great. I'd love to go to dinner with you.

But then we hear the, well, I got ready and I did my makeup and my hair and this person never called me back. It's like, because no one owes you anything. And so that's me respecting my time and my boundaries saying, you don't owe me anything and I don't owe you anything. Let's meet at Erewhon for 30 minutes. Let's have a quick jive. If we get it, great. I'd love to go to dinner with you.

I feel this intensity. I'm dysregulated. I don't feel safe here. The problem is we see someone attractive and go, oh, Oh my God, it's a sign. What we want to look at is we want your nervous system to feel regulated. We want your nervous system to feel safe with this person. And that means that the spark isn't going to be present. That doesn't mean you can't have attraction.

I feel this intensity. I'm dysregulated. I don't feel safe here. The problem is we see someone attractive and go, oh, Oh my God, it's a sign. What we want to look at is we want your nervous system to feel regulated. We want your nervous system to feel safe with this person. And that means that the spark isn't going to be present. That doesn't mean you can't have attraction.

I feel this intensity. I'm dysregulated. I don't feel safe here. The problem is we see someone attractive and go, oh, Oh my God, it's a sign. What we want to look at is we want your nervous system to feel regulated. We want your nervous system to feel safe with this person. And that means that the spark isn't going to be present. That doesn't mean you can't have attraction.