Sadia Khan

So if you're constantly pandering to us, you're not going to know how to navigate us.

And that's what I was trying to teach my clients.

And then I put it online and it kind of went viral from there.

Do you know what I mean?

Yeah, it did.

And I think this is where my cultural difference makes a big difference.

I sometimes, because I grew up as a Pakistani woman, my family is so normal to be like, Sadi, you look so fat.

You look so terrible.

What have you done to yourself?

Like, it's so normal for my,

mom to say you look terrible and we would be like really and that would be it there would be no trauma there'd be nothing to it it would be that's it they're just giving feedback and when you when I had friends in England they would be like your mom just called you fat you know that's you know you can call the you can call the police on her that's abuse

I said, abuse?

You'll beat me up if I call the police.

I can't do that.

And so we had such a different version of what abuse looked like.

We just grew up thinking honesty is essential.

Niceness and politeness is not essential.

We found honesty is the pivotal thing in connections.

So maybe it's just a cultural thing, but generally, I think in a lot of poor countries and that kind of culture,

They don't have these niceties.