Sam Sanders

And there you have it.

Yeah.

And it's not helping the future of their relationship as a couple.

He's not building the foundation of y'all's relationship if he's already wasting money to speak to his pride.

And then I think if he's not budging, then... I think the first thing you look for and see if he can make progress on this, it's like, all right, the problem already exists.

You're not going to break up with him because the problem exists.

But the next step is can he communicate about this problem effectively and speak to his emotions and find a solution and a way forward?

If he can have a good and substantive conversation with you in this moment about pride and money, you're on the right track.

But if he can't have a conversation about this, what else will he not be able to have a conversation with you about?

So it seems like it's less about the money and more about the communication.

So maybe the next test for you as you navigate this problem is not so much thinking about the money first, but thinking about, can this guy communicate with me in the way that I need to feel supported in a relationship?

And if not, if not...

Send them my way.

I won't ask any questions.

Are you mad about the oil investment or are you mad about your partner not sharing 50K with you?

Because I can tell from the question, yeah.

And it seems like you need to have a conversation with yourself before you make it a conversation with your partner.

Because what I would hate for you to do is hide your complex emotions about money and sharing money.

under a certain kind of performative progressivism in which it's all about the oil and divesting.

It's not just about that.