Sam Sanders

It's clearly not.

So think about what's really at play in this issue for you before you talk to your partner.

And then besides that, I don't know, call me old school.

If y'all aren't married, how they invest their money is their business.

Yeah.

No, for sure.

I think if this were less than a year and we still weren't too serious yet and hadn't talked about making plans for a future, I'd leave it alone.

If you're building a life with this person and see yourself –

living together, being married, having kids, then it's for sure worth talking about.

But I would not do the thing where I make the conversation all about one's politics.

It's about much more than that.

And it's much more emotional than that.

So be sure that you're being clear about what you want out of all of this.

Yeah, exactly.

And the hypothetical for this relationship and for this person who wrote the letter is what is the right thing to do in a relationship when the partner who has more money is investing it?

Does this person expect an obligation or a duty to have that be shared with them?

I'm implying that they kind of think the partner has responsibility to not just share the information of this money existing, but to share in how it's invested.

And that requires a conversation about what the expectations are of this relationship.

Because this partner might have a different expectation.

It seems like they do because they haven't talked to them about it.