Sande Golgart

Her energy is trying to pull me back and say, hey, quiet down, which feels like, oh, you're not supporting me. And then I'm trying to say, why don't you amp it up? Let's get going. And then you realize that's where that underlying tension is coming from.

Her energy is trying to pull me back and say, hey, quiet down, which feels like, oh, you're not supporting me. And then I'm trying to say, why don't you amp it up? Let's get going. And then you realize that's where that underlying tension is coming from.

And when you realize it and understand it energetically, not in your mind has a hard time making sense of it because you're trying to think, how do I keep this together? My job as a father, as a husband is to make this work. When I was able to step back from it and look at it energetically, I could see my job is to cut her free. She wants to be pulled in this.

And when you realize it and understand it energetically, not in your mind has a hard time making sense of it because you're trying to think, how do I keep this together? My job as a father, as a husband is to make this work. When I was able to step back from it and look at it energetically, I could see my job is to cut her free. She wants to be pulled in this.

She wants this beautiful, kind of serene life that I'm not going to be able to give to her unless I sacrifice everything I want. just to help make that happen. And then I know that I would end up with regret pointed towards her if I allowed that to happen.

She wants this beautiful, kind of serene life that I'm not going to be able to give to her unless I sacrifice everything I want. just to help make that happen. And then I know that I would end up with regret pointed towards her if I allowed that to happen.

So that's when it became really obvious that we could support each other, be there for each other, go on and live separate lives from here forward, not regret any of the time we've spent together, in fact, appreciate it even more, and then support each other in allowing each other to go where life is taking us.

So that's when it became really obvious that we could support each other, be there for each other, go on and live separate lives from here forward, not regret any of the time we've spent together, in fact, appreciate it even more, and then support each other in allowing each other to go where life is taking us.

Yeah, that's right. That's right. I think all of it boils down to, again, being able to listen to yourself, what's going on and allow yourself to feel. And I think for most men, you asked the question of going into empty nesting. For men and women, let's allow yourself to feel. What am I feeling? Is it fear? Is it like joy? Is it anxiety?

Yeah, that's right. That's right. I think all of it boils down to, again, being able to listen to yourself, what's going on and allow yourself to feel. And I think for most men, you asked the question of going into empty nesting. For men and women, let's allow yourself to feel. What am I feeling? Is it fear? Is it like joy? Is it anxiety?

And then I can start to distance myself by saying, I'm not the thought. I'm the person having the thought. And when you realize the separation and the distance between the two, then you realize you don't have to be the anxiety that you're feeling. You're just a person feeling and thinking with anxiety. And then you can start dealing with it.

And then I can start to distance myself by saying, I'm not the thought. I'm the person having the thought. And when you realize the separation and the distance between the two, then you realize you don't have to be the anxiety that you're feeling. You're just a person feeling and thinking with anxiety. And then you can start dealing with it.

Then it allows you to be in touch and in tune and then get it more in touch. And then you start giving yourself permission to love yourself. And I think we're as a society, we have it all backwards. We want to help everybody else. Right. We feel like, oh, my purpose is to help everyone. Our purpose is to help ourselves. If we all helped ourselves. Yeah.

Then it allows you to be in touch and in tune and then get it more in touch. And then you start giving yourself permission to love yourself. And I think we're as a society, we have it all backwards. We want to help everybody else. Right. We feel like, oh, my purpose is to help everyone. Our purpose is to help ourselves. If we all helped ourselves. Yeah.

We would all get along amazingly, but it's, oh, I'll help you cause you have so many problems. No, help yourself. Get rid of all of your own issues. Be the best version of yourself and we would all get along amazingly. And that's where I feel like we owe it to ourselves to selfishly let ourselves live our best lives with compassion, with love, joy, gratitude. but mainly towards ourselves.

We would all get along amazingly, but it's, oh, I'll help you cause you have so many problems. No, help yourself. Get rid of all of your own issues. Be the best version of yourself and we would all get along amazingly. And that's where I feel like we owe it to ourselves to selfishly let ourselves live our best lives with compassion, with love, joy, gratitude. but mainly towards ourselves.

Give ourselves some grace. Understand that if I just do, if I show up every day, an amazing life is going to unfold. I don't have to compete. I don't have to worry about maybe Vince is getting there faster than I am. Man, he's already one year into his podcast. I got to hurry and catch up. Maybe I'm not meant to have a podcast. Maybe I just have to listen to where I'm inspired.

Give ourselves some grace. Understand that if I just do, if I show up every day, an amazing life is going to unfold. I don't have to compete. I don't have to worry about maybe Vince is getting there faster than I am. Man, he's already one year into his podcast. I got to hurry and catch up. Maybe I'm not meant to have a podcast. Maybe I just have to listen to where I'm inspired.

And then I'll do my amazing thing. You do your amazing thing. We can high five in the middle and support each other. And that's like that abundance mindset coming to life. And I think that's where I see the world. I have amazing hope for the world. But we have to get there one individual at a time. We could all get there together.

And then I'll do my amazing thing. You do your amazing thing. We can high five in the middle and support each other. And that's like that abundance mindset coming to life. And I think that's where I see the world. I have amazing hope for the world. But we have to get there one individual at a time. We could all get there together.