Sarah

I think it's no matter who he was married to, he just doesn't have the... We were virgins when we got married.

And even when we were dating, this was an issue.

But we attributed it to...

Fear of pushing purity boundaries.

And he like he told me once you're married, I'm not gonna be able to keep my hands off of you.

I just don't want to push a line.

I don't want to cross anything that we're not supposed to.

It's like, so I chalked up his not wanting to make out to wanting to be a good Christian.

And, you know, I loved that at the time.

Um, but I was very open and honest about wanting a fun, enthusiastic sex life.

I was really vulnerable and I honestly, I was explicit.

Um, and he, he promised that we could try anything that he would be into it.

And then we got married and all the handcuffs were taken off and none were put on.

Sure, yeah, no, it's not a normal problem.

All the Christian marriage books have a chapter about the other way around, but nobody knows how to deal with this.

Yep.

He said, I'm really sorry.

I know that this is what you wanted.

I know I promised you that I would do these things with you and give you these things.

I just, I don't want to.