Sarah

Like, let's get to the bottom of this.

Because we had already done the, like, physical, go to your doctor, get tested for stuff thing.

And after a year of marriage counseling, he could not remember any kind of sexual trauma.

He out and out does not think it's any kind of attraction to men or anything.

We really got nowhere.

The counselor recommended that we ended up separating.

So we separated for a couple of months.

And then we stopped going to counseling because I didn't want to be separated.

Yeah.

And the other part of this is I sometimes wonder if I'm in the wrong, if the roles are reversed and, you know, a husband is asking his wife for something that she's not comfortable with.

You know, everyone agrees that that guy's violating boundaries.

So, you know, I'm in a spiral sometimes.

Like, for example, like oral sex.

I love giving it.

He has no problem receiving it.

He promised he would try oral sex with me.

But in 12 years of marriage, he's never once attempted it.

And he knows how much it hurts because they bring it up almost every time we talk about this.

Does he think it's wrong?

He does not think it's wrong.